01-17-2015, 04:54 PM
@SargeMaximus
Yeah, I'm feeling ya. It's interesting that women (or just people in general) will think it's strange or obsessive that a guy is very disciplined to hit the gym, work on their business, and work on themselves in their sex/social/personal life (by leaving their comfort zone). That's until the guy is jacked, has tons of disposable income, and is a kickass personable dude, THEN the women flock and think that it's fine.
Here's a soundbite: "No one cares about the sapling until it's an great oak."
That said, if you're not giving the types of value she wants, she doesn't really need to contribute. Let's say some shitty salesman approached you at the department store, and wasn't even able to make through their memorized script, would you feel obligated to help them? What if their script was all about how it would help him, but nothing was said about you? You'd probably not care, even if the product was fantastic.
Remember, women have options, and they know it to some level. If she can't see that, she won't care, she doesn't have to care, and going that way is actually a sound strategy; how could her mental health be affected if she cared about the mental health of every single guy that's interested in her?
I think she'll give you something to work with if she wants you to 'win' (i.e, "get" her).
That said, when I'm genuinely attracted to a woman and talk to her, the convo runs smooth, even if she ultimately goes nowhere. When she's hot, but I'm not feeling it, I draw a blank, so does she, and the conversation is straight up shitty.
Yeah, I'm feeling ya. It's interesting that women (or just people in general) will think it's strange or obsessive that a guy is very disciplined to hit the gym, work on their business, and work on themselves in their sex/social/personal life (by leaving their comfort zone). That's until the guy is jacked, has tons of disposable income, and is a kickass personable dude, THEN the women flock and think that it's fine.
Here's a soundbite: "No one cares about the sapling until it's an great oak."
That said, if you're not giving the types of value she wants, she doesn't really need to contribute. Let's say some shitty salesman approached you at the department store, and wasn't even able to make through their memorized script, would you feel obligated to help them? What if their script was all about how it would help him, but nothing was said about you? You'd probably not care, even if the product was fantastic.
Remember, women have options, and they know it to some level. If she can't see that, she won't care, she doesn't have to care, and going that way is actually a sound strategy; how could her mental health be affected if she cared about the mental health of every single guy that's interested in her?
I think she'll give you something to work with if she wants you to 'win' (i.e, "get" her).
That said, when I'm genuinely attracted to a woman and talk to her, the convo runs smooth, even if she ultimately goes nowhere. When she's hot, but I'm not feeling it, I draw a blank, so does she, and the conversation is straight up shitty.
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