11-26-2014, 01:41 PM
Adri, Are you sure you haven't got some deep seated fear of relationships as you seem to be interested in a guy and then not. There's nothing wrong with going out with someone and enjoying their company and getting into the whole swing of it. Nobody has to have sex and I'm sure you would feel better in yourself and get more enjoyment in your life. SM is supposed to work on the scarcity thing and believe me it's a big problem for the hetero's too. I know loads of people who have got married or just involved in a relationship because the bloke thinks that's the best they can get or because it's either that person or nothing for maybe months and months. I'm also guilty of that myself and have hurt a few women in the process which I felt terrible afterwards.
