08-23-2014, 10:42 PM
Stage 3, Day 4
I've facing some negativity regarding my progress, specifically with my voice, and how if you strip away the rasp, I can't hit a pure note above G# above middle C, which isn't terribly high. I'm also finding that my mid range feels flabby. I don't know what to think. Guitar playing is a bit sloppy too. Might just be the bad night of sleep. I may also need to find myself a reputable guitar teacher; let's just hope they accept that guys can sing high notes (some will set unreasonable limits on a gender).
I approached a 'hot' girl (not cute or gorgeous) without a second thought while she was with her friend. I sort of blurted out my first introduction; she used the boyfriend opt-out almost right away, which seemed like bs, but whatever. I really didn't care after the fact, but opened my eyes about me approaching women to whom I'm interested.
Also, huge reframes thanks to Johnny Soporno and his speaking. A BIG one is looking for women with whom you'd LIKE to sleep with as opposed to looking for a media's "8 to 10". It doesn't matter if she's fat, balding, and missing teeth; if she makes my dick hard, and I enjoy having sex with her AND her company, that's all that matters. That's what will bring me a happy life, as opposed to finding women that are pre-approved by friends because she's hot.
I've been living this paradigm unconsciously for a while, and the women that I like stand out to me pretty instantly, but chucking this paradigm away will do me good. IF I LIKE HER (and she like's me), THAT'S ALL THAT MATTERS! Granted, the women in which I'm attracted that way are often attractive to others, but that's mostly coincidence.
I've facing some negativity regarding my progress, specifically with my voice, and how if you strip away the rasp, I can't hit a pure note above G# above middle C, which isn't terribly high. I'm also finding that my mid range feels flabby. I don't know what to think. Guitar playing is a bit sloppy too. Might just be the bad night of sleep. I may also need to find myself a reputable guitar teacher; let's just hope they accept that guys can sing high notes (some will set unreasonable limits on a gender).
I approached a 'hot' girl (not cute or gorgeous) without a second thought while she was with her friend. I sort of blurted out my first introduction; she used the boyfriend opt-out almost right away, which seemed like bs, but whatever. I really didn't care after the fact, but opened my eyes about me approaching women to whom I'm interested.
Also, huge reframes thanks to Johnny Soporno and his speaking. A BIG one is looking for women with whom you'd LIKE to sleep with as opposed to looking for a media's "8 to 10". It doesn't matter if she's fat, balding, and missing teeth; if she makes my dick hard, and I enjoy having sex with her AND her company, that's all that matters. That's what will bring me a happy life, as opposed to finding women that are pre-approved by friends because she's hot.
I've been living this paradigm unconsciously for a while, and the women that I like stand out to me pretty instantly, but chucking this paradigm away will do me good. IF I LIKE HER (and she like's me), THAT'S ALL THAT MATTERS! Granted, the women in which I'm attracted that way are often attractive to others, but that's mostly coincidence.
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