Woodman's OPA

[Shannon]

I find that it's easy to ignore porn when I keep myself sufficiently busy and that means work and socializing. It doesn't hurt to have one or more girlfriends or lovers, also. On rare occasions, I'll find myself looking at porn and then I stop and realize I am wasting my time (BIG no-no with BAMM 2.0) and it's back to work. But it may be a few hours of mindlessly indulging the lizard brain before I realize that. Happens a few times a year for me, maybe.

I have had girlfriends and lovers who looked like these girls, and worked with and befriended models and strippers who did also. Knowing them, and the way their personalities are different because of how they look and how they are subsequently treated actually is a huge help in killing porn. Not just because you have to humanize them, but because you start seeing their failings and normality instead of the fantasy of perfect love and sex goddess that porn tends to delude people into creating in their minds.

The truth is, sex is best with a more compatible woman, regardless of what she looks like. I've had some incredible sex with some incredible women, and some incredibly bad sex with them too. I've also had cases where endlessly awesome sex came from women I would not normally have looked twice at, had not unusual circumstances steered me off course and into noticing them in some unusual way first.

Looks are nice, but what really matters is how you connect in a physical, emotional, mental, maturity, interest, sexual and energy way. Looks alone can give you horribly bad sex, just as easily as amazingly good.