Confused about the attraction subliminals for men?

[Shannon]

I think PUAs tend to misuse the word "game" when they say "inner game" and "outer game". There is definitely "game", but the proper usage of the word refers to the "game" of attracting a woman. And it is (or should be) a game - that is, it should be fun, playful, light and enjoyable for you both. "Game" is what you get when you don't have "desperation". If it's a game, you're doing it as much for the fun of doing it as you are for the end result, which says you really aren't so invested in and needing of that end result that it becomes desperation.

You don't go play a game of tennis with the attitude that you are a total loser if you don't win a game, do you? Or baseball, or basketball, or hockey, or racquetball, soccer, football, any of them - you win some, and you lose some. That's just how it is. So those people who focus too much on winning tend to self destruct because they stress out, and then when that stress kills their success, they disappear because they can't handle "losing".

It's a freakin' game, people. Tiddly winks is a game too. Who the hell cares? You play games for fun. The competition is a lot of the fun, but the winner is not going to win forever, and the loser is not going to lose forever. That's the rest of the fun - there's always another chance to win. It doesn't matter.

And because it doesn't matter, you don't get desperate on the woman you are "gaming" unless you want to lose. When you're desperate, it's only a game for one of you, and that's no fun. Who wants desperate? Unless you're also desperate, it's more than likely not attractive.

Game is the fun, playful interaction of a man and a woman where one or both are interested in the other, the process of titillating the subject into becoming interested in, and acting on that interest in, the "gamer". The best game is when both parties are gaming together, they both know they want eachother, and they both "play the game" because it's more fun that way.

Flirting is gaming. It's fun to flirt. When there's mutual flirting going on, you're likely very much enjoying each other's company. Both genders like to have partners who make them feel good, and having fun and laughing - usually the result of properly played "game" - is therefore a great trigger of interest.

"Inner game" and "Outer game", in my opinions, are efforts to classify things too much, therefore providing material which can be sold. It also has the side effect of making people neurotic, if you ask me. Just relax, have fun, play with the subjects who are willing to play back, and disconnect from any need for any particular outcome. The name of the game is... fun. Not sex.