06-22-2014, 03:14 AM
Hi! This is based on my experience so far (now stage 5, day 6), with my personality and now with some eft for the last 20 days.
I've recently come to the conclusion that I'm an awesome, warm, funny and confident man if I just accept the way I am in this moment and space and act in a way that comes naturally. I realized that in the past I always tried to force myself to be more something (funny, confident) or less something (anxious, tired), or just different. Used to always think how I should act, how much energy I should use, what should I say next, am I being funny/interesting enough, and so on. Of course I still go to this head space, but I have found a different way of being I'm accessing more & more often. So for me the effect has been that I am much more *myself*. I can be much more open with people so they can actually communicate with me instead of this false me (wall) that they had to go though before. I'd guess what you feel comfortable with will probably change, though I'm not sure what you meant by that. As for your current friends, I'd say it depends on whether they like the you that you are when you're not trying to modify your behavior in any way to make them like/approve/respect you more.
If the joke is made in good spirit, I have no trouble going along with it. This hasn't changed, if anything I'm more comfortable laughing about myself now because my insecurities come up less. If it is malicious but its disguised as a joke, I just remain calm and won't go along with it. I just had this happen this weekend: somebody tried to bully me of in a bar by getting in my face and putting his hands on my shoulders.. I just remained completely relaxed and comfortable with him right in my face, I was smiling a tiny bit and politely disagreed with him. After a while he just changed completely, started laughing and saying he was just joking, "don't take it seriously", quickly tapped my shoulder and disappeared. And no, it was not a joke (it had to do with some females close by). I'd say handling conflict that just comes up as a surprise has been the clearest change so far, very happy with my progress there. There amount of conflict situations will probably increase if you've been automatically submitting or avoiding them before.
Can't say about your past events, except that "memories buried alive never die".
Please don't take this the wrong way, but just remember you're not that special ;) IMO we're pretty similar anyway. For any deep emotional thing you might have, the are lots & lots & lots & lots of people in the world who have pretty much the same issue with different details, nobody just talks about that stuff. If I had to describe some random friend of mine, I'd tell you what he looks like, how old he is, what he does for a living, what are his hobbies, where he's been lately, etc. So I try to avoid that kind of stuff.
(06-22-2014, 01:18 AM)Alta Wrote: 1) I'm concerned that if I listen to AM6 then who I am is going to disappear, along with what I feel comfortable with in my life and those who like me for who I am. From this you can probably tell that I care quite a bit about what others think of me. This is a bit hard to explain, but does AM6 bring out your positive aspects and reduce the negative aspects and leave the core of who you are intact?
I've recently come to the conclusion that I'm an awesome, warm, funny and confident man if I just accept the way I am in this moment and space and act in a way that comes naturally. I realized that in the past I always tried to force myself to be more something (funny, confident) or less something (anxious, tired), or just different. Used to always think how I should act, how much energy I should use, what should I say next, am I being funny/interesting enough, and so on. Of course I still go to this head space, but I have found a different way of being I'm accessing more & more often. So for me the effect has been that I am much more *myself*. I can be much more open with people so they can actually communicate with me instead of this false me (wall) that they had to go though before. I'd guess what you feel comfortable with will probably change, though I'm not sure what you meant by that. As for your current friends, I'd say it depends on whether they like the you that you are when you're not trying to modify your behavior in any way to make them like/approve/respect you more.
(06-22-2014, 01:18 AM)Alta Wrote: 2) In terms of not tolerating BS or second class behaviour from people, how does AM6 balance this with being able to take a joke? E.g. I wouldn't want to become someone who can't take a joke and who overreacts when people are just joking without meaning to be malicious.
If the joke is made in good spirit, I have no trouble going along with it. This hasn't changed, if anything I'm more comfortable laughing about myself now because my insecurities come up less. If it is malicious but its disguised as a joke, I just remain calm and won't go along with it. I just had this happen this weekend: somebody tried to bully me of in a bar by getting in my face and putting his hands on my shoulders.. I just remained completely relaxed and comfortable with him right in my face, I was smiling a tiny bit and politely disagreed with him. After a while he just changed completely, started laughing and saying he was just joking, "don't take it seriously", quickly tapped my shoulder and disappeared. And no, it was not a joke (it had to do with some females close by). I'd say handling conflict that just comes up as a surprise has been the clearest change so far, very happy with my progress there. There amount of conflict situations will probably increase if you've been automatically submitting or avoiding them before.
Can't say about your past events, except that "memories buried alive never die".
(06-22-2014, 01:18 AM)Alta Wrote: I really don't know how some of you guys write about such personal
stuff on line. Even this post is causing me anxiety and concern in case someone I know reads it and guesses it's me :D
Please don't take this the wrong way, but just remember you're not that special ;) IMO we're pretty similar anyway. For any deep emotional thing you might have, the are lots & lots & lots & lots of people in the world who have pretty much the same issue with different details, nobody just talks about that stuff. If I had to describe some random friend of mine, I'd tell you what he looks like, how old he is, what he does for a living, what are his hobbies, where he's been lately, etc. So I try to avoid that kind of stuff.
Thoughts, opinions and beliefs subject to change without prior notice.
