You have a lot of great insights that a lot of people don't take the time to figure out about themselves. You're doing tough work, but it will pay off. I would encourage you to stick with the sub though. Think of it this way, even though it's Shannon's program and is a tool to self help, it's still your mind doing all the work. You're still doing all the work, it just doesn't seem that way because all the work is being done in the background. Obviously when you go see a therapist, it seems like you're outwardly working on yourself because you're going through the action of seeing a therapist and working out your problems. With these subs, it's not the same outward action...you push a button and go to sleep. But, I guess my point is, that regardless of the action you're taking to improve yourself, you're still doing it. You're just giving your mind a different tool to do it with.
You remind me very much of myself. I know that one of the things that helped me get over the need of approval from others was self love. I created more self love by forcing myself to think more positively. A lot of people don't realize how negative their self talk is, and over time it can affect your self esteem. When I started to focus on the positive, and pump myself up over the things I like about myself, that need for approval started to matter less and less. You start to deflect the negative thoughts and feelings you have about yourself that get in the way of becoming more confident. I believe that what you think of yourself is the most important thing. You are no more or less of a human being because of what others might think. No one has control over you and your emotions. You do. And when you seek approval from others, you give them a certain power and control that should be your own. You just have to decide to take ownership. How you do that is up to you. But I do think this sub could help you help yourself if you give it a chance, but that's ultimately up to you. I just think that with your approach, you'll find answers one way or another once you set your mind to it.
You remind me very much of myself. I know that one of the things that helped me get over the need of approval from others was self love. I created more self love by forcing myself to think more positively. A lot of people don't realize how negative their self talk is, and over time it can affect your self esteem. When I started to focus on the positive, and pump myself up over the things I like about myself, that need for approval started to matter less and less. You start to deflect the negative thoughts and feelings you have about yourself that get in the way of becoming more confident. I believe that what you think of yourself is the most important thing. You are no more or less of a human being because of what others might think. No one has control over you and your emotions. You do. And when you seek approval from others, you give them a certain power and control that should be your own. You just have to decide to take ownership. How you do that is up to you. But I do think this sub could help you help yourself if you give it a chance, but that's ultimately up to you. I just think that with your approach, you'll find answers one way or another once you set your mind to it.
