That's not true, Maniac. Alphas sometimes pursue, but they don't do it in a way that expresses neediness, desperation, etc. For instance, if I am interested in a woman, she may have been raised to believe that she is wrong if she attempts to pursue or initiate anything. She may give IOIs, but will then be very unlikely to pursue or initiate. If she will not pursue, and I am sufficiently interested, I will give her the opportunity to spend time with me. Open the door for her to move forward within what she believes is appropriate behavior for her, as it were.
I was interested in a woman once who made me feel something that caught my attention whenever I was around her. So I invited her to spend some time with me outside her workplace. She did nothing, which turns out to be because she was afraid of getting hurt. A year later, I encountered her again, and I made an effort, again, to not just see her again within a short amount of time but to get her to spend time with me outside of work.
It took me three meetings with her over the course of a week, where she worked, which was the most I could possibly have come up with plausible reasons for that made sense without getting into looking desperate, but the second meeting I suggested to her that we get together and the third time I made sure she had my contact information and remembered.
In other words, for this particular woman, she needed me to do these things to make something happen because she had been raised to believe that a woman does not initiate or pursue. So even though she was very interested in me, as she later told me, she made no move until I showed not only interest but demonstrated sufficient interest with my persistence.
Had she not agreed to it after the third effort, I would have concluded she wasn't interested and let it go. The key is to pursue only when necessary, only when she is worth pursuing, and only so far as you can pursue without expressing low value or desperation.
Most of the time, I do not pursue. That's because most of the time, I ether am not interested, or because women pursue me instead, if I interest them enough. There's no hard and fast rule about "alphas don't pursue women". A smart man adjusts his approach to match his needs and the circumstances and people with whom he is interacting. But never display desperation, neediness, etc.
That's why it's common for higher value men to suggest to a woman he is considering or interested in that she should join him in doing something he was already planning to do.
I was interested in a woman once who made me feel something that caught my attention whenever I was around her. So I invited her to spend some time with me outside her workplace. She did nothing, which turns out to be because she was afraid of getting hurt. A year later, I encountered her again, and I made an effort, again, to not just see her again within a short amount of time but to get her to spend time with me outside of work.
It took me three meetings with her over the course of a week, where she worked, which was the most I could possibly have come up with plausible reasons for that made sense without getting into looking desperate, but the second meeting I suggested to her that we get together and the third time I made sure she had my contact information and remembered.
In other words, for this particular woman, she needed me to do these things to make something happen because she had been raised to believe that a woman does not initiate or pursue. So even though she was very interested in me, as she later told me, she made no move until I showed not only interest but demonstrated sufficient interest with my persistence.
Had she not agreed to it after the third effort, I would have concluded she wasn't interested and let it go. The key is to pursue only when necessary, only when she is worth pursuing, and only so far as you can pursue without expressing low value or desperation.
Most of the time, I do not pursue. That's because most of the time, I ether am not interested, or because women pursue me instead, if I interest them enough. There's no hard and fast rule about "alphas don't pursue women". A smart man adjusts his approach to match his needs and the circumstances and people with whom he is interacting. But never display desperation, neediness, etc.
That's why it's common for higher value men to suggest to a woman he is considering or interested in that she should join him in doing something he was already planning to do.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
