01-18-2014, 07:05 AM
(This post was last modified: 01-18-2014, 07:06 AM by LionMonkey.)
Quote:I chat with a girl in the gym, we hit it off well. She goes and does something across the gym. I was going to chat with her again to say bye, and she's already gone to the change room. I finish up and go change as well. As I'm putting on my coat in the vestibule, there she is! I call her out, and we walk and talk across campus (going to a similar place).
In that last 20%, some guy friends of her's chat with her, and I'm already gotten 10 meters ahead. I had the hunch to keep walking, so I slow down, check my phone, and slowly walk away. tl;dr, I ditched her.
My conflict was that I was wondering if going back would make me 'reactive' or 'needy', and the fact that I left could've meant that I am also 'reactive' or 'needy'.
This is due to conflicting information by Real Social Dynamic and Brent Smith; chase vs. be chased.
Hey man. Here's my take:
Try next time: as soon as you begin to think "am I reactive or needy" to direct your attention to something positive/happy. Because it will get u back into the moment, which is a big factor for what attracted the girl in the first place.
What u write actually says this to me, "I'm not abundant. The girl & her friend have that big influence on me where I get into my head and think if I am reactive or not (which is reactive)"
Hope it helps!
PS. good bettering with the shitstorm
1. Do whatever you want.. risk whatever your gut tells you because.. you know you have good intentions.
2. Pressure forms the man.
3. Clarity gives space for better decisions.
