01-12-2014, 04:36 AM
(01-11-2014, 02:44 PM)stratos Wrote: could just shoot them a quick email. if it's bugging you, asking for forgiveness will lighten your heart.
The dilemma is digging up such a small, casual matter that happened years ago, will it harm the relationship? I have no idea.
Is this a guilt pattern that I have, that the sub is working on releasing? Perhaps. Do I need to act on it? I don't know, but I know that I will feel better if I apologised for my behaviour.
To apologise for this matter because of my guilt trip would be pure selfishness on my part, because I'm doing it for myself. Our relationship is amicable, and my friend is polite (and younger than me, hence in some way she looks up to me), I could make it better but I don't want to make it worse. If she held a grudge all these years and I apologised, I think it would release some anger in her. If she hadn't, and couldn't seem to remember the incident, wouldn't I appear to be narrow-minded and the one bearing the grudge?
I was proud and haughty when I said it, and I'm not proud of it now.
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You know what? It suddenly dawned on me what I should do now LOL.
Thanks stratos for reading and responding!
