11-16-2013, 08:40 PM
I've more or less accepted the fact I am not attracted to heavier girls. I'm also catching on the whole "i'm not fat i'm curvy" when they really are just trying to justify their unhealthy behavior.
I'm more on the second part of what you are bringing up - if i meet a woman and i automatically write her off i can miss out on something. Not sure how I will balance that.
I have tried a new strategy in trying to get myself out there. I read a really insightful post which didn't speak to me at first but once I applied it, it made since. It went a little something like:
"there are 3 you's, past present and future you. Forgive all the instances of past you, anything you regret just forgive yourself. When present you has a fear or irrationality, tell him to forget this and to do it for future you. Once you are in the future for you, thank your past self for doing what present you didn't want to do."
With that I went to my first swing dance after taking some lessons. It's fun as hell! I met a young woman and we shared a moment after we shared a song, just some extended arm contact. I could tell there was a moment because she put her arm on me and thanked me, and i put my arm on her and kept it there and looked at her. I never got her number but I asked if she was coming back next week and she said she was. If I fuck up, I'll forgive myself and move on so I can improve myself for the future.
I love making excuses for myself, and now I forgive myself for doing it and I'm ready to make my future better.
My plan is to wait until December 1st to start WM2.0 again. That will have been about 5 weeks since I finished WM2.0
I'm more on the second part of what you are bringing up - if i meet a woman and i automatically write her off i can miss out on something. Not sure how I will balance that.
I have tried a new strategy in trying to get myself out there. I read a really insightful post which didn't speak to me at first but once I applied it, it made since. It went a little something like:
"there are 3 you's, past present and future you. Forgive all the instances of past you, anything you regret just forgive yourself. When present you has a fear or irrationality, tell him to forget this and to do it for future you. Once you are in the future for you, thank your past self for doing what present you didn't want to do."
With that I went to my first swing dance after taking some lessons. It's fun as hell! I met a young woman and we shared a moment after we shared a song, just some extended arm contact. I could tell there was a moment because she put her arm on me and thanked me, and i put my arm on her and kept it there and looked at her. I never got her number but I asked if she was coming back next week and she said she was. If I fuck up, I'll forgive myself and move on so I can improve myself for the future.
I love making excuses for myself, and now I forgive myself for doing it and I'm ready to make my future better.
My plan is to wait until December 1st to start WM2.0 again. That will have been about 5 weeks since I finished WM2.0
