07-05-2013, 10:37 AM
(07-05-2013, 09:51 AM)About Wrote: In truth, I'm not looking, but I'm putting myself out there in social situations. I've learned that when in a social situation a woman does not respond, then that's it for the night and I enjoy the time with my friends. If there is a lady that I enjoy and she enjoys me as well, then I say game on.
As soon as I find a lady has a boyfriend, I back off and remove all interest in her. That doesn't mean I'm not friendly, just my intent has become different.
I understand. For me, it's a delicate balance between "putting myself out there" and "looking". To me, "just putting myself out there" always just meant to go out, do stuff, and come home. If a woman notices me and starts something, then so be it. However, I'm starting to see that that doesn't really happen (and is, to be honest, really the way women try to get into relationships lol). Although I have been approached by women several times in my life even before the subs. However you gotta put yourself out there and also talk to the women that cross your path.
Which reminds me, how was your previous "skill level" in regards to this? I'm not joking when I say I don't talk to women. It's the literal truth. I'm hoping these subs can get me to reach out. Today I noticed I am comfortable around people and women but no socializing. Something's stopping me, and as bad as it might sound, it'd be a great comfort to see someone who was as "bad" as I am at socializing and womanizing get into the territory that you're getting into (taking girls home, etc).
Even something so little as having the abundance mentality where you only go for the single girls. As much as I don't want to limit myself to single girls, I often end up in the mentality that only the taken women and ones who are looking to discreetly cheat are the ones I could get, if that makes sense.
