Re: Can negative experiences have an impact on the effectiveness of the subliminals?

[Shannon]

Sorry Shannon but I have another couple of questions for you,

Why after one negative experience would my subconscious effect me so badly in this department? I mean directly after, and still up to this day I am anxious about it all, have a lot of fear and negativity about intercourse and my ED now, and negative self talk and images take up most of my thoughts throughout the days. Why could this be? And this can't be beneficial for the OED recording? Or will it still be effective.

If it is indeed your subconscious mind doing this, and not a combination of conscious and subconscious, you are entering a situation in which a fear has been tripped, and if you know fear as well as I do, you know that fear tends to snowball without help. It gets to be ridiculous, and sometimes over the smallest things. Yesterday I was fighting with myself over getting a refund for something, which I had been putting off for days because for some reason I was afraid to get a refund... ridiculous, right? And I had built it up in my head that this was going to be terrible. When I called BS on my fear and pushed through, it was literally effortless, as I (rationally) knew it would be.

You appear to have a major fear of not being good enough or masculine enough based on a woman's perception of your sexual abilities, tied specifically to your basic ability to achieve an erection. Just as women are much more likely to be receptive to sex if they are emotionally open to and comfortable with it, so are men. If you are fearing that she will leave you, destroy your reputation, criticize you, etc. then why would you want to run the risk?

Your subconscious is in effect saying, "I'm not going to cooperate, if you try this, she'll hurt us."

But, being emotionally focused as it is, it is also being irrational, and does not realize that by cooperating, the problem goes away!

And if you don't think this happens to a lot of men, you're seriously mistaken. People don't understand that men are just as emotionally aware, and sensitive, and valid as women are. I think that's part of why so many women are critical of men.

But if your girlfriend would do anything along those lines, perhaps you have the wrong woman? A good woman, and a good relationship, won't have issues like that to deal with, because the couple trusts one another and has a deeply personal, intimate bond. That's why I suggested communicating to her about what's going on.

The anxiety isn't helping the subliminal, no, but it will still be effective with enough use. Although I think I am going to rebuild it today in 4G with OGSF included in it. I think you would benefit significantly from that.

I mean I have had quite a few sexual partners before this (casual encounters), and have been totally fine, although there were a few occasional times where I couldn't get it up, but it didn't effect me in the slightest bit. Is it because this particular female is my first proper serious girlfriend, so I have emotional attachments to her?

If you've had lovers before, but never a serious girlfriend, you are exploring relational intimacy and vulnerability for the first time, and that can be scary, especially where it bumps up against perceptions of potential inferiority that cause insecurity and fear. But if you don't make yourself vulnerable to her, and vice versa, you cannot have a serious relationship because it doesn't work that way. Serious includes intimacy, and intimacy requires vulnerability.

And hopefully this is my final question, in regards to the results of the OED subliminal message, will the results just come on when I initiate intercourse? e.g gain and remain hard during? Or will I feel my anxieties and other underlying issues go away first? I would imagine that the physical changes would occur first even if my anxieties and negative thinking remain in the concious mind, as the subconcious mind will be reconditioned to have gotten rid of my erectile difficulties, and if I have been informed right, the subconcious mind always wins?

Once again apologies for all of the questions Shannon

The results will depend on how your subconscious interprets the instructions. It could go either way. But yes, the subconscious always wins in the end, so if the subconscious gets the program running, you will have results regardless.