02-28-2013, 02:03 AM
(02-25-2013, 12:57 AM)Shannon Wrote: I personally prefer that we don't delete threads unless the creator of the thread wants it deleted. Brad, if you don't want someone to see something, why don't you just either not post it, or delete it after it's read, and ask the OP to remove whatever from quoted materials later? Part of the value of this forum is for others who come along to read the experiences of the people here and to see their journey. Deleting threads is not good for that. Just don't share things you're not comfortable sharing online.
If you're worried about your girlfriend leaving you over this, it's not a good sign that you have a good woman, or a good, healthy relationship. If she's a good woman, she'll understand. If she's not, why are you with her? Approaching from fear like this is a bad way to deal with a situation, because it breeds lies (as you are ding in avoiding dealing with your issue, deception by omission) and there is no relationship on earth that can survive lies and stay healthy. I still think you need to talk to her, especially if she loves (or at least genuinely cares about) you. How old are you and she, by the way?
Sorry Shannon but I have another couple of questions for you,
Why after one negative experience would my subconscious effect me so badly in this department? I mean directly after, and still up to this day I am anxious about it all, have a lot of fear and negativity about intercourse and my ED now, and negative self talk and images take up most of my thoughts throughout the days. Why could this be? And this can't be beneficial for the OED recording? Or will it still be effective.
I mean I have had quite a few sexual partners before this (casual encounters), and have been totally fine, although there were a few occasional times where I couldn't get it up, but it didn't effect me in the slightest bit. Is it because this particular female is my first proper serious girlfriend, so I have emotional attachments to her?
And hopefully this is my final question, in regards to the results of the OED subliminal message, will the results just come on when I initiate intercourse? e.g gain and remain hard during? Or will I feel my anxieties and other underlying issues go away first? I would imagine that the physical changes would occur first even if my anxieties and negative thinking remain in the concious mind, as the subconcious mind will be reconditioned to have gotten rid of my erectile difficulties, and if I have been informed right, the subconcious mind always wins?
Once again apologies for all of the questions Shannon
