11-02-2012, 04:59 AM
(10-23-2012, 04:13 AM)Shannon Wrote: Sex is a very powerful thing. Most males don't understand that sex without the right conditions is potentially very self destructive. I think you should never sleep with a woman you don't have some sort of connection with. Sex for the sake of sex can be fun, but do it too often and you can end up causing yourself emotional damage. I do not recommend treating women as "usage toys" (unless they ask you to), or putting yourself through meaningless sex, especially the first dozen or so times. I had to hurt myself a lot to understand these things.
Looking it at the point of view of some of the guys I know, there are some cases wherein having some with some women have been quite damaging for them.
This is why some say that sex is really for mature individuals. Almost all people treat sex differently.
(10-23-2012, 09:29 AM)Sean Wrote: For me, the combination of porn and my first sexual encounters being with a woman who was not only a soulkilled woman who used sex as a pathological substitute for self-esteem, she was dating someone else who became a friend during the time I was sleeping with her, and we're still friends today, 22 years later.
Yeah, the nonphysical connections implicit in sex, having gone unrequited, stop being initiated. Which turns sex into a purely physical act, and prevents the intimacy that would normally be created through future sexual acts.
I'm making it a goal this months and so to cut down my porn viewing. I've been trying it for a time now but I'm still having problems. On a positive note I've been able to cut down or minimize my fapping when I watch them.
"Nothing in the world can take the place of Persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent."
