10-21-2012, 08:57 PM
(10-15-2012, 12:09 PM)Sean Wrote: An alpha set himself as a priority, but that does not mean that he is an immoral, heartless user of women. On the contrary, a true alpha is considerate of the women he's dating/romping/teasing/flirting. I believe a true alpha will not pursue a woman to whom he is not attracted, and at the same time, he will not abuse a naive girl's crush just to put a notch on the bedpost.
You're doing fine, Javier. Your virginity is not hampering you badly. You have high standards, and you expect the woman who shares your bed to meet them. At least, that's how I see it.
My definition of a Nice Guy is a guy who makes implied contracts with women. He'd cancel his vacation to help her move, hoping for affection. He'll spend large amounts of money, seeking some kind of return on his investment. He'll hang out in the friendzone hoping she'll see that he's a wonderful guy with so much beta to offer.
I haven't seen you as a Nice Guy.
That's good to know man.
But I have been also a Nice Guy before or so I think. That's where I am before I started this journey of mine. I got in the friendzone but it is more so to the fact that the girls I like has become cold due to me not showing any interest or move towards them because I have a fear of rejection. I'm always hesitant in asking girls out because I don't want to be embarassed.
Regarding my standards yes I always have it. But there were cases wherein I was trying to lower it because I have become so needy. I even considered turning gay before because there were a lot of gay guys hitting on me from time to time when I'm out. (no homo) Especially now because I have been improving myself physically by exercising, looking good and dressing well. But I'm not gay and I couldn't even imagine doing so.
Now I've read some advice that at my stage I should at least f**k low quality women just to get experience but I can't do it. As I am trying to be the alpha male, I'm not pursuing these kinds of women as you have also pointed out. But in the past I have rarely had success with women I like because I'm shy to make the first move and just wait for them to probably do it.
The question now is am I in the right path for the current choices that I have undertaken? For instance, only pursuing women that I indeed like and not settling for those that I don't like or even not lowering my standards?
"Nothing in the world can take the place of Persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent."
