03-15-2025, 01:59 AM
Good result. I definately identify with alot of that. For me I find that sometimes it might be okay but then when I realize she's attracted or maybe after the interaction is when more neediness comes up for me.
I think it's definately what you're mentioning, you're trying to fill something you're missing by getting approval, girls, sex, whatever.. and it feels good when getting it, but it doesn't actually create that deeper increase in confidence feeling better in the longer term as much, I found that years ago I kind of just wanted more and more, and I was sleeping with more girls than probably anyone I know has in their life back then, now my fear and trauma and such have stopped me from being able to be with them at the moment.
That's the key, which is much harder than it is to say it.. go out and enjoy yourself, and if there are cute girls around then just naturally talk to them. Unlike what I used to do in that I hate clubs but i'd force myself just to go for girls, never really enjoy it and be drained. But it's different if i'm at something I enjoy or am into.
I think it's definately what you're mentioning, you're trying to fill something you're missing by getting approval, girls, sex, whatever.. and it feels good when getting it, but it doesn't actually create that deeper increase in confidence feeling better in the longer term as much, I found that years ago I kind of just wanted more and more, and I was sleeping with more girls than probably anyone I know has in their life back then, now my fear and trauma and such have stopped me from being able to be with them at the moment.
That's the key, which is much harder than it is to say it.. go out and enjoy yourself, and if there are cute girls around then just naturally talk to them. Unlike what I used to do in that I hate clubs but i'd force myself just to go for girls, never really enjoy it and be drained. But it's different if i'm at something I enjoy or am into.
