11 hours ago
I'm glad I went out.
I drove down the street and was thinking where I should go, and also kind of getting frustrated. But thought of going to the beach town near me, then I seen I had a message from a mate who asked if I want to goto the beach, so that's good.
I went back home to get clothes then went, he wasn't gonna be there for an hour or so. I went for a walk, and something had shifted.
In the supermarket getting a drink, there was this sexy girl in front of the drinks. I went and got one and said "I recommend this one" and talked to her briefly, she responded positively and had some kind of accent. I said "Seeya" and left and then I was like "I should have talked to her more".
I went to try to find some shirts to get. I found myself more readily saying hi to staff when I went into shops. And I got a few smiles. A woman come into a clothes shop with a white shirt hanging over a bikini, then she come in the next clothes shop and I went and said "Are you finding more good clothes than me" not much to the interaction really, I did reinitiate and she was friendly but didn't really have any vibe.
The most noticable one was in a craft/antique type shop. There was 2 women, I kind of noticed them when I went in. At one stage they walked past and one gave me a smile, I said "how's it going" and asked if she was finding anything good, and I ended up just walking past and saying "that's good" after she answered and then I was thinking "come on".
I circled back and after a few minutes seen them again and this time she gave me a much more obvious, massive smile and I said "you're gonna need a bag soon to put all the stuff in" and she full on stopped to talk this time and her friend even left us alone. Talked maybe 5 minutes. I was surprised that she was 50, though I could tell she was older than I expected up close, but her body definately didn't match a 50 year old. She ended up saying she has to go finish buying a present for her mum and we parted ways. I was kind of annoyed I didn't take it further, but as I said to my friend it was already a bit out of my comfort zone.
I was saying "hi" or "how's it going" to more people when walking past them on the beach and was feeling pretty good.
But after a while I started to shut down a bit. My friend is pretty good at saying hi or talking to random people but he does talk about rsd and pickup stuff a bit and has kind of a bad mindset, like one thing I agree with he's saying there are places that are more natural for people to talk, but then he's talking about "cold approach" and how you can't really do it cos it's weird. I countered his points saying "it's not if you're comfortable, you don't really get any bad reactions" and such, but I think it still took it's toll.
I started to shut down a bit, and also get tired which sometimes happens with my energy so I can't totally blame what he was saying. But I thought that with the shift that was obviously happening where I was more naturally talking to girls today when I usually wouldn't, that what he was saying was going against that so caused conflict in my mind and further drained my energy.
It's not like he's being negative towards me or trying to bring me down. But I think I know what I mean.
We went and had dinner at a pub and the girls there are always cute, but I was starting to shut down then and my vibe was going down so I was getting kind of weird reactions when I was looking at them kind of like I was making them feel uncomfortable as my energy was down.
Anyway a good day in general. I feel much better about the day in that I actually did something instead of fear stopping me, and also usually have a better day when I go somewhere with a friend or friends and don't get the same frustration or going down in a spiral response after, so i'm glad he messaged me.
I drove down the street and was thinking where I should go, and also kind of getting frustrated. But thought of going to the beach town near me, then I seen I had a message from a mate who asked if I want to goto the beach, so that's good.
I went back home to get clothes then went, he wasn't gonna be there for an hour or so. I went for a walk, and something had shifted.
In the supermarket getting a drink, there was this sexy girl in front of the drinks. I went and got one and said "I recommend this one" and talked to her briefly, she responded positively and had some kind of accent. I said "Seeya" and left and then I was like "I should have talked to her more".
I went to try to find some shirts to get. I found myself more readily saying hi to staff when I went into shops. And I got a few smiles. A woman come into a clothes shop with a white shirt hanging over a bikini, then she come in the next clothes shop and I went and said "Are you finding more good clothes than me" not much to the interaction really, I did reinitiate and she was friendly but didn't really have any vibe.
The most noticable one was in a craft/antique type shop. There was 2 women, I kind of noticed them when I went in. At one stage they walked past and one gave me a smile, I said "how's it going" and asked if she was finding anything good, and I ended up just walking past and saying "that's good" after she answered and then I was thinking "come on".
I circled back and after a few minutes seen them again and this time she gave me a much more obvious, massive smile and I said "you're gonna need a bag soon to put all the stuff in" and she full on stopped to talk this time and her friend even left us alone. Talked maybe 5 minutes. I was surprised that she was 50, though I could tell she was older than I expected up close, but her body definately didn't match a 50 year old. She ended up saying she has to go finish buying a present for her mum and we parted ways. I was kind of annoyed I didn't take it further, but as I said to my friend it was already a bit out of my comfort zone.
I was saying "hi" or "how's it going" to more people when walking past them on the beach and was feeling pretty good.
But after a while I started to shut down a bit. My friend is pretty good at saying hi or talking to random people but he does talk about rsd and pickup stuff a bit and has kind of a bad mindset, like one thing I agree with he's saying there are places that are more natural for people to talk, but then he's talking about "cold approach" and how you can't really do it cos it's weird. I countered his points saying "it's not if you're comfortable, you don't really get any bad reactions" and such, but I think it still took it's toll.
I started to shut down a bit, and also get tired which sometimes happens with my energy so I can't totally blame what he was saying. But I thought that with the shift that was obviously happening where I was more naturally talking to girls today when I usually wouldn't, that what he was saying was going against that so caused conflict in my mind and further drained my energy.
It's not like he's being negative towards me or trying to bring me down. But I think I know what I mean.
We went and had dinner at a pub and the girls there are always cute, but I was starting to shut down then and my vibe was going down so I was getting kind of weird reactions when I was looking at them kind of like I was making them feel uncomfortable as my energy was down.
Anyway a good day in general. I feel much better about the day in that I actually did something instead of fear stopping me, and also usually have a better day when I go somewhere with a friend or friends and don't get the same frustration or going down in a spiral response after, so i'm glad he messaged me.
