Yesterday, 10:16 PM
Not totally. Obviously unhinged and unneccesary violence does come from emotional issues, but being able to be capable in that area I believe is important to have to deal with those kinds of people. And no matter how much pc nonsense they tell us, you aren't going to deal with a person intent on hurting you with cuddles and talking to him nicely.
But yeah I don't want to be that guy who unnecessarily fights like I might have in the past, when I did security it wasn't like I was just picking on people but I wouldn't back down because I hate bullies so i'd get into alot more fights than needed and probably hurt people I didn't need to. Now I hope to not have to again, but if it comes to it and I have no choice I want to make sure i'm coming out on top.
As for the rest, definately. I've noticed in myself in recent years i've been much more reluctant to do things that are uncomfortable. I want to be able to take calculated risks. Obviously alot of good things contain some risk, but I also agree not to just carelessly do them, but also to not be way too worried about every little thing. Kind of like my parents have programmed me to be sadly.
The problem i've found is in the balance between these things. And that there are almost no good role models of actual Masculinity in society.
That stands out definately, and is another challenge. The problem is that if you've built good stuff, relationships in your life that you do have something to lose, which is why you do need to build the right mindset to deal with things decisively if it comes for it.
The person who doesn't give a fuck about anything and has nothing to lose is definately dangerous and reading books about people with this mindset is eye opening and worrying. But for us we want to be able to take those things that we do care about and use that to build our mindset, like what will we lose if we don't act decisively to deal with this person in front of us trying to hurt us.
But yeah I don't want to be that guy who unnecessarily fights like I might have in the past, when I did security it wasn't like I was just picking on people but I wouldn't back down because I hate bullies so i'd get into alot more fights than needed and probably hurt people I didn't need to. Now I hope to not have to again, but if it comes to it and I have no choice I want to make sure i'm coming out on top.
As for the rest, definately. I've noticed in myself in recent years i've been much more reluctant to do things that are uncomfortable. I want to be able to take calculated risks. Obviously alot of good things contain some risk, but I also agree not to just carelessly do them, but also to not be way too worried about every little thing. Kind of like my parents have programmed me to be sadly.
The problem i've found is in the balance between these things. And that there are almost no good role models of actual Masculinity in society.
Quote:just a few days i was thinking about how the most dangerous people are the ones who are willing to die, ironically when you have nothing else to lose you can do whatever you want without a care.
That stands out definately, and is another challenge. The problem is that if you've built good stuff, relationships in your life that you do have something to lose, which is why you do need to build the right mindset to deal with things decisively if it comes for it.
The person who doesn't give a fuck about anything and has nothing to lose is definately dangerous and reading books about people with this mindset is eye opening and worrying. But for us we want to be able to take those things that we do care about and use that to build our mindset, like what will we lose if we don't act decisively to deal with this person in front of us trying to hurt us.
