(10-04-2024, 09:28 AM)Shannon Wrote: Feeling like you're not as good is different than being not as good. One is an emotional response, and one is a fact. The emotional subconscious can create all sorts of lenses through which to color your conscious view of the physical world, but these lenses are often based on beliefs that lack any factuality. One can me made to "feel" just about anything, which is why the mainstream news media has become such a load of propagandist BS in the last 10 years. They're trying hard to get you to feel fear, uncertainty and doubt, and thus control what you choose, think, believe and do.
Facts don't care about your feelings, as they saying goes. Feeling like you're not as good doesn't mean you're not as good, and even if you're actually not as good, it doesn't mean you cannot develop the skill. Those feelings are based on beliefs that your emotional subconscious holds which are counter to what SD is attempting to accomplish, and when they conflict with it, the established beliefs try to push themselves forward to maintain status quo. But like fear, those beliefs are typically based on anything but facts. And you are a dynamic human, who can and does change.
If, in fact, you're not as good as others, ask yourself this: Is comparing myself to others necessary? Useful? Helpful? And if so, what do I do about it? If not, why am I doing it?
In this case, if it is useful, then consider the situation logically. Logically, if you are trying to compete for something, and you're not as good, then you have the following choices:
1. You can determine where you're factually not as good as those you're competing with, and develop those skills and areas until you are better than they are. This is what the winner does.
2.You can conclude that for whatever reason, competing in this direction is not going to produce the desired result, and focus your efforts in a different direction. This route can be what the realist does (if they are thinking clearly and logically) or what the quitter does (if the "logical analysis" is really just a fear response and cop-out).
3. You can give up and do nothing, and just stagnate. This is the path of the person who would rather just breathe and sit around than accomplish anything in life.
The key takeaway here is that sometimes competition is possible and worth the cost, and sometimes it is not. Only you can determine what is "worth the cost". But outside of something like competing for a hand modeling job, when you have no hands... pretty much everything else is possible, as long as you put in the effort and energy and time and focus. So the question becomes... is the end goal worth what it will cost me to develop?
The first thing you'll "hear" is the emotional response, answering in the way that it always has, which is likely in the negative. Ignore that. Think about it logically. Do a cost/benefit analysis. Figure out what the costs and benefits are and then determine how much you really want the benefit, and compare that to the cost. And try not to let those emotional beliefs and responses influence this logical analysis. Allowing yourself to be too emotional in your thinking and responses is just as bad as being too logical. You want to achieve a balance.
By the way, have you ever used BROP or Balance Your Brain Hemispheres? I think I recall you used BROP.
No I didn't use BROP, I used: OCF3 and 4, AS (without succes), OCGSF 1 and 2,HOWL (also without succes), AOL and EPHRA 3. (And now I'm using SD)
Also I was raised by the idea that other people were better then us but I just uploaded and showed my cover song to my friends and they liked it : )
It also helped that the sadness I was talking about happend a few days before I posted the last post.
But yeah, I guess it had something to do about not feeling good enough and ironicly I know feelings are not true but it's still hard to remember that.
I need to search for a way to keep being positive (although I wont be surprised if some of the random sadness I felt was SD cleaning up some Subconcious BS though..)
Edit: I See BROP is a 3G Sub/Exp... I never used those since I joined this site on August 2020.. so even then all Subs/Exps were 5G related..
