SD 5.11g

[Shannon]

I bought and downloaded SD and gave a copy to my wife who will use it on her own time. We’re both self negating, giving all of our energy to kids, work, and in concern for each other which has left us both burnt out. I have been people pleasing at work for my whole career, which means I have so much energy devoted to staying on people’s good side that ironically it means I don’t perform as well. I know that when I have a better relationship with myself everything gets better on that front which is why I’m hoping SD gives me and my wife a more permanent foundation.

As I said both of us have a self sacrificial approach to life. My partner puts every ounce of her energy into the kids and work, as do I, on top I have to look out for elderly parents. It just means that we’ve lost any sense of having a healthy good life - where we’re able to manage stress and proactively seek joy. Our version of a break is passing out late in the evening after we’ve ordered dinner!

So the goals for this process is to embed a permanently better attitude to self care, to drop overwork /workaholism as a way to approach, and to get the mental space and energy to actually plan our future and start working toward it. 

I want us to be able to work together to set goals, it’s not something she feels is possible because she is anxious about having more to take on, so we’re stuck. I want to see her value herself more and start taking care of herself, the same way I want to start taking care of myself. Ultimately we both just want to be happy and confident people that are good role models for our kids, rather than the overworked wage slaves surviving until the next two our break when the kids are in bed and we can just tragically watch Netflix!

So the first thing you did was to pirate it?  Or did you give the one you purchased to her and you no longer have it or intend to use it?  You can see how that would be concerning to me, and it would trigger AP scripting as well if you bought one copy and then made an illegal copy for your wife to use as she pleases, while you do the same, effectively using it as if you bought 2 copies, when you only bought one.  If you intend to use it and so does she, you each need to have purchased a copy for yourself.  Otherwise, you're pirating it and that's going to be an issue.