03-23-2024, 08:35 PM
Day 41,
This program is quite good, but it's so smooth that I can't tell just how good.
It's got me noticing when people are violating the 'gentleman' rules, and gently but firmly calling it out.
Things like unwarranted impositions on my time, or other things like that.
Have had a colleague try to type me a vague opening question to the likes "I was wondering if you have time" where I responded something like "I have no way of knowing what you're asking from me. Do you want to call? About a specific issue? Will it take long"
I'm also finding the sniveling, half-formed requests (from other people to other people) of "maybe stay on the call an extra minute to help me?" to be quite pathetic.
It's vague, and incredibly dishonest, and it's approached in a cowardly indirect way.
Not to mention the people who message only "call?" in a text chat, which I find to be quite rude.
I do try to audit myself to not slingshot in the other direction, because I used to let things slide.
Despite dropping some emotional bonds; I still don't want to go to clubs or bars, and I'm wondering if it's just a force of habit. Because I had assumed that it was things like shame and fear that would hold me back. But now, I lack a desire to pursue dating, sex, or romance; I have plenty of other interests and hobbies, however.
This program is quite good, but it's so smooth that I can't tell just how good.
It's got me noticing when people are violating the 'gentleman' rules, and gently but firmly calling it out.
Things like unwarranted impositions on my time, or other things like that.
Have had a colleague try to type me a vague opening question to the likes "I was wondering if you have time" where I responded something like "I have no way of knowing what you're asking from me. Do you want to call? About a specific issue? Will it take long"
I'm also finding the sniveling, half-formed requests (from other people to other people) of "maybe stay on the call an extra minute to help me?" to be quite pathetic.
It's vague, and incredibly dishonest, and it's approached in a cowardly indirect way.
Not to mention the people who message only "call?" in a text chat, which I find to be quite rude.
I do try to audit myself to not slingshot in the other direction, because I used to let things slide.
Despite dropping some emotional bonds; I still don't want to go to clubs or bars, and I'm wondering if it's just a force of habit. Because I had assumed that it was things like shame and fear that would hold me back. But now, I lack a desire to pursue dating, sex, or romance; I have plenty of other interests and hobbies, however.
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