(02-14-2024, 01:35 PM)Frosted Wrote: I don’t remember anything about women thinking guys are gay on AM6. But I do remember some guys had that on SM3/WM2. It could be a lot of things like how you’re dressing, or perhaps less neediness. It might help to treat it like a shit test and let it go since reacting to it and getting emotional won’t help.
Thanks, man!
I guess it's not the AM6?
I don't go out very often anymore.
When I do, I get the right attention.
In my business it's usually old women who don't know what's cool.
Or young small city girls lol
Maybe it's the residual effects of using affirmations for a few years, feeling sexy, and attracting attention with my clothes.
I talked about it with my friend. He said it's because of my clothes and told me not to worry about it. Like you said, it's a test. He also mentioned that if I don't want those reactions, I can just wear a black leather jacket and remove my earrings.
I've been exploring my personal style for the past two years, influenced by my affirmations, which made me feel sexy, and the "dandy" concept from Robert Greene's "The Art of Seduction." I express myself through unique and often unconventional clothing, pushing boundaries while staying sophisticated and sexy.
Living in a small city has its challenges. I used to dress up only when going to the big city, but now I wear my unique style to work too. Usually, the reactions I get, mostly in bars, lead to interesting conversations and connections with girls. But it can happen in my business too. I meet many different types of people because I work in a small business.
My personal style does not follow societal norms in this small country. I mean, one old woman told me yesterday she thinks I'm gay. I asked why. She said because sometimes I wear a purple scarf! WTF, lol. In this country, men don't feel comfortable wearing scarves because they fear they might look gay. This is totally BS. If flashy clothes, scarves, or multiple earrings make me feel unique, then fuck it. I will not let negative judgments affect me.
For reference:
In "The Art of Seduction," the Dandy uses their unconventional style and defiance of social norms to attract attention and express individuality. They're confident, witty, and a bit rebellious. Examples of dandies include Russell Brand and Harry Styles.
P.S. It's not just once; both male and female friends have asked to wear my scarf because it's unique.
