06-02-2022, 08:25 AM
I get what you're getting at, and it IS good food for thought, but there is nothing wrong with looking for external input to help me make a better informed decision. What matters is that I make one and make it definitively once I do. When I do, it's ultimately still ME making that choice. Of course I'm gonna do what I think is right. That doesn't mean however that I shouldn't weigh the decision and ask for second opinions. It's good to get second opinions so you make a better thought out decision. After all, I don't have all the answers nor have I considered every possible perspective on it. Cat Man made a really good point and I'm glad he did.
I was on the fence because I wasn't exactly sure what each option was likely to do, so I asked for input. Now I learn that UH can effectively do what OF does and more, just over a longer period of time because it has so much more ground to cover. For a while, I was worried that without OF it would take forever to get over these hurdles that keep me stuck because I had unaddressed fear. But now I see UH is helping me with that too, to some extent.
Although I also remember that UH only addresses fear that gets in the way of healing and doesn't include the full OF title without that caveat in it. So then the question becomes how much do my chief fear concerns meet that criteria and how imperative is it that I accomplish them fast?
I am still a 32 yo man who does not live independently, even if I'm living WAYY better than I used to. Procrastination (born of fear) gets in the way of me doing what I need to do to improve my situation, and my fears and inactivity get in the way of my manifestations.
So I have to take expediency into account and weigh it against the need for patience. And because I felt the time where the first runthrough was about to end, I felt I needed to be able to make this decision quickly (before the end of the month)
So asking for input can help expedite that process without making too rushed a judgement. that's why I decided to ask for input, and I think it was a good idea to do so.
I am of course actively working on my procrastination problem, but if I load myself with too much to do at once, I'll get burned out. So a degree of patience is required. Figuring out the best way to efficiently balance patience and speed of advancement.
If OF is what's needed to work on all the fears that cause me to undermine myself, it might be a better idea. Although I'm leaning towards another 6 months of UH because I'm thinking that the version of OF it has built in (which works on fear that gets in the way of healing) probably addresses the bulk of the fear that's at the root of my procrastination.
If anybody here has some insight into that which they think would better help me, your input will be appreciated. thank you Johannesbrst for sharing your experience. I will consider what you said in your post.
I was on the fence because I wasn't exactly sure what each option was likely to do, so I asked for input. Now I learn that UH can effectively do what OF does and more, just over a longer period of time because it has so much more ground to cover. For a while, I was worried that without OF it would take forever to get over these hurdles that keep me stuck because I had unaddressed fear. But now I see UH is helping me with that too, to some extent.
Although I also remember that UH only addresses fear that gets in the way of healing and doesn't include the full OF title without that caveat in it. So then the question becomes how much do my chief fear concerns meet that criteria and how imperative is it that I accomplish them fast?
I am still a 32 yo man who does not live independently, even if I'm living WAYY better than I used to. Procrastination (born of fear) gets in the way of me doing what I need to do to improve my situation, and my fears and inactivity get in the way of my manifestations.
So I have to take expediency into account and weigh it against the need for patience. And because I felt the time where the first runthrough was about to end, I felt I needed to be able to make this decision quickly (before the end of the month)
So asking for input can help expedite that process without making too rushed a judgement. that's why I decided to ask for input, and I think it was a good idea to do so.
I am of course actively working on my procrastination problem, but if I load myself with too much to do at once, I'll get burned out. So a degree of patience is required. Figuring out the best way to efficiently balance patience and speed of advancement.
If OF is what's needed to work on all the fears that cause me to undermine myself, it might be a better idea. Although I'm leaning towards another 6 months of UH because I'm thinking that the version of OF it has built in (which works on fear that gets in the way of healing) probably addresses the bulk of the fear that's at the root of my procrastination.
If anybody here has some insight into that which they think would better help me, your input will be appreciated. thank you Johannesbrst for sharing your experience. I will consider what you said in your post.
