08-24-2020, 08:57 AM
(08-22-2020, 11:50 AM)Shannon Wrote: It should help with anything you ingest. I'm planning to have that be a module in the next version of Weight Loss, and more work will be done to it in the mean time, but by itself it is designed to adjust the appetite. Without certain other modules, certain personality types may resist it. By your description, I smell excuses to eat on her part, which probably indicates increasing subconscious feelings of insecurity. I wonder if maybe she started gaining weight when you started running DMSI because she is afraid of what it's pushing her - and you - to actually do. Maybe subconscious,y her gaining weight is a way to prevent that from happening. Part of why I don't recommend it for couples. It's not designed for couples just yet.
Hmmmm. Well I'll avoid the DMSI for a while then anyway (taking the prescribed break). Just out of curiosity. Is she feeling the insecurity because I used it or because she used it? Seems like it should be because I used it but what you suggest isn't clear to me, can you clarify? I can go back to her graphs and see if the weight surged after we began the DMSI, I know when we started that, and she seems to track her weight in an app (my fitness pal) at least until recently.
Interestingly, her weight surged over the weekend and this (Monday) morning. After weighing in, she said to me, she is going to go back to counting calories, and wants to reduce snacking and drinking and is asking me for help, so we have a plan to go for a walk or play ping pong (or swim in this weather) rather than having a dessert. This should really help. But it came from her entirely. I do ask her every couple days whether there is any progress, don't even ask for details, unless there IS progress.
As far as me, I do seem to continue to trend down. Today I looked at my weight (I track on paper--and have for probably 10 years) for Monday, compared with each previous Monday since the beginning of July (which is when I believe I started thinking about buying the sub.
I've trended down each Monday by about a pound or so. The indications are that I have lost at least 4 pounds since early July, and perhaps as much as 6 pounds.
I am interested in that future version of DMSI you are planning, but, of course, can't use it till we get a handle on the weight thing. The fear reduction and confidence increase it brought me (and her to some degree) were effective and fun. I actually believe it has triggered a new 'phase' of life. I'm re-capturing some of my youthful enthusiasm for leadership and trying new things. I believe it is going to make me a more effective human in general.
I began several days ago, doing the 4 days on 1 day off, with the playing of a loop or two during dinner hour. I also added a 6th loop to the night time plays. Maybe her thinking is being affected by the higher intensity program. She is also sleeping better, curiously. While I am not sleeping as well since we began the program-- I track my sleep types using my Oura ring, and have not had adequate deep sleep from the beginning of starting this program. Other than that my sleep hasn't changed much, just that aspect of quality. I just realized this now as I was writing. I'll have to keep an eye on our off day coming this week, perhaps I'll have a higher percentage of deep sleep on that night... we'll see.
Also, in a couple weeks we'll be in the mountains tent camping for 5 days. I'm thinking I won't try to do the sub there, because it'll be audible throughout the campsite and the occasional crackling would be more obvious with the silence of the forest. I will play it for her while we are driving around in the car sightseeing IF no one is riding with us. Hopefully, she'll make a bunch of progress before then.
