08-21-2020, 10:17 AM
(08-20-2020, 05:18 PM)Shannon Wrote: If she's resisting the sub, then it sounds likely that she is doing the strange thing that causes most people to gain weight, which is, her subconscious is seeking either comfort or security in food and doesn't want to give that up.
There are a few things you can do.
1. Change the volume. I don't think this is the best thing to do right now.
2. Decrease her days off.
3. Increase her loops per day.
Of your options, I think if I was in your shoes I would decrease her days off to 1, and increase her loops per day by one per day per cycle until you reach success or hit a limit for how much you can easily play it. You may also want to play it to her in the moment while she is eating.
Your observation above is *probably* close to the truth. She has said in the past (actually quite a long time ago, before weight was much of a problem for her) she "eats when she's happy, nervous, sad, excited, hungry, feeling emotional, etc." originally, I gave her a little trouble about munching, just because she did it so much, I thought it was a bad habit, like nail-biting, etc. For decades now, though I have NOT said anything about those sorts of habits and just let her police herself, unless (as in her smartphone habits) they interrupt conversations and romantic moments.
I will follow your suggestions. I'm not sure we're in bed long enough that adding another loop during the night would play all the way through, but will give it a try. Also, playing it during dinner is a great idea, we only actually eat one meal a day nowadays except on Saturday. We have been measuring portions for 10 years and she recently stopped counting calories for the first time in a decade because 'it wasn't working anymore'.
However, I am theorizing that she is just eating too much and maybe drinking too much when she sits down to eat. I have noticed that she has a tendency to eat almost as much as I do when we sit down for our evening meal. In fact, now that I think of it, if I don't finish the salad she made (she makes one bowl for the two of us) she'll finish it, drenching it in olive oil (her favorite dressing). Also, if I don't finish the fruit salad she prepares, she'll finish it.
I'd eat more salad and fruit if my system tolerated it. But I can't do that without running the risk of stomach cramps triggered by too much fiber. Since she does the prep, she might just make more and more if I were finishing it. Seems like she's just a tough case. So we'll up the frequency and loop count.
Too bad I'm responding so well, though. I've dropped 5 pounds in the last month. If anything, I'm actually kind of working against it mentally, but subconsciously I'm clearly doing what needs to be done to go down. I'm hoping I can rebuild some of the lost muscle but lack of gym access is causing me trouble, the home equipment doesn't quite do the trick for me, I discovered yesterday that I'm losing strength, but that could just be that I had to stay off the chest exercises due to a wrist issue.
Does the sub help with amount of wine, etc. consumed also, or is it just focused on food? That could be an issue, too. She may eat fewer calories, but drink more? Casting about for possible reasons...
