11-22-2019, 09:12 AM
"Closure" is usually an excuse based in self deception to keep trying, keep hoping, try to get her back. You are building up in your head this image of what will happen, and that creates expectations of her that are more than likely unrealistic, whether or not you want to get back together with her.
If you genuinely want "clearing things up and mutually apologizing for hurtful words and choices between us", you are assuming that she wants the same thing, for one. For two, you assume that she understands things the same way and that you actually can "clear things up". For three, and this is a big one, you assume she thinks that she did something that needs apologizing for. And last, but not least - the biggest of all - you are assuming that she is even still thinking of you at all, never mind gives a shit.
Just drop her. The only thing you can change is yourself. She is what she is, and she has done what she has done; that's on her, not you. It's over, and all you are doing by holding on is wasting the limited time you have on this planet to find a better option for yourself.
If you genuinely want "clearing things up and mutually apologizing for hurtful words and choices between us", you are assuming that she wants the same thing, for one. For two, you assume that she understands things the same way and that you actually can "clear things up". For three, and this is a big one, you assume she thinks that she did something that needs apologizing for. And last, but not least - the biggest of all - you are assuming that she is even still thinking of you at all, never mind gives a shit.
Just drop her. The only thing you can change is yourself. She is what she is, and she has done what she has done; that's on her, not you. It's over, and all you are doing by holding on is wasting the limited time you have on this planet to find a better option for yourself.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
