10-31-2019, 07:18 PM
(This post was last modified: 10-31-2019, 07:19 PM by EvolvingPhoenix.)
...and yet, if their sense of separation from another is high enough, or their rationale for how it's different in their case from another individual subjectively convincing enough, they just might STILL put someone else through it, not recognizing the similarity of experience amd subsequent suffering or not seeing the same relevance of said sameness in experience/suffering. Case in point: my ex-friend, whose lowest point in her life and highest levels of suffering in her life came from an irreperable friendship breakup. She's been down that road. She knows how it feels. But sending someone else down that road is no issue and deserves no understanding or patience or compassion or forgiveness. Not if she can create enough illusion of separation to convince herself that it's different in that case, and any compassionate or loving or forgiving attitudes are seen as being "deserved by me, but not by thee"
But that's okay. I hurt her, and as she once said: "Hurt people hurt people" I understand her reasons for doing it and while she could have been more compassionate about how she treated the whole thing, I can forgive that, just like I can forgive that same quality/capacity within myself.
But that's okay. I hurt her, and as she once said: "Hurt people hurt people" I understand her reasons for doing it and while she could have been more compassionate about how she treated the whole thing, I can forgive that, just like I can forgive that same quality/capacity within myself.
