06-06-2019, 03:09 PM
(06-06-2019, 02:24 PM)Kol Wrote: More internal changes;
I consciously realize how my eye contact ties in with confidence, self esteem etc. Its like a sort of absence/void inside. When im engaged in conversation it becomes better but im still avoidant at times. Its fear. Been questioning if fear of success is the same if not highly similar to fear of failure. Im realizing that right now. Physically im looking good, strong, and I know im of value and it can be a non issue, being comfortable in my sexual skin, confident in myself, and its all in my head, but im still getting self conscious at times. Like suddenly being thrown in the internal mess, like a shock effect.
Also, when im thinking of A, I notice an wall in the field of "its okay to want a girl you like" more stuff coming to light.
Sometimes paying someone too much eye contact whilst they talk to you is not necessarily a good thing when it comes to attraction. Always used to be my pitfall; it's a balancing act. Not enough eye contact or inability to feel comfortable maintaining eye contact at all times in any situation is a sign of weakness/low self esteem or fear, whilst giving someone complete rapt attention with your eye contact and shoulders/waist facing them whenever they talk to you can cause them to invest less as you are overinvesting yourself, from a status/attraction perspective anyway.
FRM should help smash past any fears with eye contact as ASC has a similar effect also, provided you are not resisting the script as it pertains to that.