(04-07-2019, 10:19 AM)Shannon Wrote: May be her response to not being able to take your energy anymore, Perhaps trying to get to you for evidence that she can still control you?
It's something like that I guess, I have thought in the same paths. But it's hard to believe, that she want to control me. I still see her as my mother, and to control someone as almost something evil. It's two really contradictory things for me. But one is probably more subconsciously driven, and not to be held against her, probably developed through herself living through trauma (my grand parents were in nazi-working camps, but survived) so I think that it may be traced back to that.
I think her behavior is close to what I have read in people with BPD who control others because they have problems facing their own emotions (which are negative and traumatic) when they pop up around others. When they can't control others, it make the situation more "floating" (and in a normal sense "natural") and thus bringing out the negative emotions, which are there and haven't been processed by the person because they are constantly pushed down for X-reason(s).
