03-25-2019, 10:54 PM
If you can't be happy by yourself, you'll always be lonely no matter who you are with.
You are trying to fill a hole within yourself (with a person) but you need to feel that hole with yourself, then you will never be lonely again with a person or not, as your source of wholeness comes from within.
If you rely on a person to fill this hole, then you will always 'need' them to feel this wholeness and when they don't give it to you, you will be back to feeling this loneliness. It is silly to rely on someone to make you feel whole, as it is not another persons job to do that, but only your own.
So in this case using AYP, is putting the horse before the cart. To put it bluntly, your vibe is screaming neediness.
It would be wise to find a way to not need and when you get there, is when usually you will attract someone new into your life, as you don't care, nor need it but it can be a nice compliment to your already whole self. Like icening on a cake.
I know you think you need someone, but you actually don't. What you are actually searching, looking for is yourself and untill you find that personal source of connection, love, validation etc...you'll always be looking for things outside of yourself to 'complete you' and they never will.
Also, IMO there is nothing more unattractive than a needy person. To me it screems ungenuine, as their fears and insecurities are driving them, to which I have a false representation of who they are. And if that false representation of who they are wants to be with me, but it is not who they really are, then it is all based on a lie anyway.
Anyway, I am sure you'll make the right decision eventually, even if it takes you 10 years to realise.
You are trying to fill a hole within yourself (with a person) but you need to feel that hole with yourself, then you will never be lonely again with a person or not, as your source of wholeness comes from within.
If you rely on a person to fill this hole, then you will always 'need' them to feel this wholeness and when they don't give it to you, you will be back to feeling this loneliness. It is silly to rely on someone to make you feel whole, as it is not another persons job to do that, but only your own.
So in this case using AYP, is putting the horse before the cart. To put it bluntly, your vibe is screaming neediness.
It would be wise to find a way to not need and when you get there, is when usually you will attract someone new into your life, as you don't care, nor need it but it can be a nice compliment to your already whole self. Like icening on a cake.
I know you think you need someone, but you actually don't. What you are actually searching, looking for is yourself and untill you find that personal source of connection, love, validation etc...you'll always be looking for things outside of yourself to 'complete you' and they never will.
Also, IMO there is nothing more unattractive than a needy person. To me it screems ungenuine, as their fears and insecurities are driving them, to which I have a false representation of who they are. And if that false representation of who they are wants to be with me, but it is not who they really are, then it is all based on a lie anyway.
Anyway, I am sure you'll make the right decision eventually, even if it takes you 10 years to realise.
