Fluffybunny DMSI 3.3 Journal

[FluffyBunny]

@FluffyBunny

I’m in the exact opposite situation. My pairbonding urges are satisfied, but I can’t seem to lose my virginity no matter what approach I take (and I can’t afford a hooker, so that’s not an option yet) and can’t get dates either.

It sounds  like you’re plenty satisfied sexually,  but lack consistent pairbonding / you’re unfulfilled in pairbonding (correct me if I’m wrong)?


One of my female friends suggested that we have a ‘queerplatonic’ relationship (non-romantic / non-sexual). My friend cuddles and kisses me and says that they love me. Apart from that, they are happy if I have a FWB / casual sex / casual dating with someone else / others. I think they may expect exclusive emotional commitment though. We have had this kind of relationship for a while now, Lots of cuddling and kissing, but zero sex and no dates.

I agreed since I might as well get the pairbonding satisfied, and can still work towards losing my virginity / sex while being satisfied with pairbonding.

I’m aiming for a sex partner, but I managed to (unexpectedly) get a ‘queerplatonic’ partner along the way, and I’m still not quite at my destination yet (losing my virginity and getting a stable sex partner / lover), but maybe the lesson for me is to enjoy the journey along the way?


Maybe something like this (‘queerplatonic’ partner / zucchini) could be an option for anyone who has lots of sex, but is still feeling unfulfilled?

Most people just get married / find a spouse, and that fulfills them (at least for the pairbonding part).

I think most people need both pairbonding and sexual fulfilment, and it can come from separate people (although, most people seem to get it from the same person via a defacto / marriage partner, but other options exist).

Mentoring others can also be quite fulfilling. I’m sure heaps of people want your lifestyle. On the other hand, maybe you can warn people about the emptiness of picking up random hot chicks or something. Most people I know assume that endless sex with hotties is the best thing ever.

New hobbies / interests might spark off some fulfilment and / or give you a new goal to focus on. Try a bunch of stuff and something might grab your attention.

If you’re rich, then starting a genuine charity can be good, as long as it is genuine (and NOT just for tax evasion and/or selfish motives).

Maybe i ask how old you are? Just so that it gives me a better reference for giving you my opinion on your situation. 

I am not lacking the pairbonding part with girls infact you will find that girls get extremely cuddly and girly/ kidish towards you after you have dominating sex with them. Girls always wants to cuddle with me afterwards i also do as well, i enjoy it and also enjoy the talks. sometimes some of them gets so affectionate and doesnt want to leave. its quite cute. 

What has happened is probably i have too many of these cases happen and your standard for your women will rise. To the point where the event of having sex with the girl almost feels like something so normal as if you just had dinner or something... 
so now its not easy for me to "feel" lovey dovy or attachment feelings to girls. only very particular girls im into i will be albe to feel this way. 

With your situation... so are you like cuddling with them in bed one on one kinda thing? and they would kiss you here and there and tell you they love you? 
If thats the case... i would suggest you make a move on them. start of by telling them what u like about them... then when mood is right go for a kiss on lips... once youve kissed enough and u can feel shes more turned on... caress her body...start with shoulders then down to the breast. 

as far as the situation goes its ok to have something like this but as long as they dont step over the lines like asking you for favors or so on.

Charity is a good advice i have been thinking about this lately might go volenteer somewhere.