Shannon's Journal Discussion Volume 3

[FluffyBunny]

Just speculating, but guys I know who think that “girls are hoes” are often not in touch with themselves and failing to have a rewarding relationship with women. They are needy and when this isn’t reciprocated they get angry and blame the women. Sure there are asshole girls but when you blame everyone something may Ben wrong with you.

I guess It’s also based in fear. Fear of facing yourself amen regocnizing what you need to work with to become a healthy individual perhaps.

I think what I wrote was misunderstood but I've taken what you said on board either way, ta.

Okay I should have used girls instead of hoes, too much trap music. Nah I don't see girls as hoes, rn the girls I'm speaking to / dating are really sweet to me and DMSI is doing great for me rn, it's just the deep fear belief whatever it is that results in women causing me unhappiness, I overthink stuff, I know I'm running DMSI but a relationship would be nice appose to just a bang, each to their own, I'm using DMSI for upping my attraction which it's doing but not enough to get me approaches but yeah. I've identified my block anyway, it's been f*cking with my head recently, I'm dating and speaking to women rn wasn't before the latest release and now I'm actually more unhappy than I was then, so I'm blocking myself by thinking I was happier alone. I don't know I'll figure it out, i'ma keep going.

I found my ideal relationship with DMSI 3.1, and it shows every sign of being permanent. I know of at least one other person who did the same. DMSI doesn't force you to bang every woman who offers, or prevent you from selecting, keeping and being faithful to just one... although once you find that one you want to keep, it's a good idea not to use it anymore. Everyone I know who has found such a relationship with DMSI has stopped using it for that reason.

Currently, this girl i attracted on 3.3v , i would keep as the one thinks i just want to bang her. Shes more of a low self esteem hot girl. Was suppose to see her again the second time but she backed away on the day of. I am pretty inexperienced on what to do with these type of girls...When i saw her she qualifies to me and is more of the shy and low self-esteem type shes young too. Like when i gave her compliments some times she doesnt even believe i mean it...

Anyone have any suggestions of what to do?

If you want to keep her and she thinks you just want to bang her then to get her, you have to do two things.

1. You have to convince her of her security in being in a relationship with you, and
2. You need to improve her self esteem.

The women of the world who are worth keeping will stay with the man who gives them whatever security they need, be that financial, sexual, romantic, trustworthiness, whatever, and provides for their heart.

So tell her flat out... I want you and you alone. I don't just want sex, I want a relationship with you. And if you want a monogamous relationship, tell her that too. Clarify your desires and intentions, and move on what you want. Bring her to the point that she knows what you want with and from her, and show her she can trust you and find whatever security she needs in a relationship with you. And help her realize that she is worthwhile. But don't try to do it by kissing her butt, she'll never believe you. She's used to guys saying those things to get in her pants and disregards them as "he wants sex".

during our previous text she did say that shes not looking for any sort of relationship or hookup, no idea why she said that... my instinct tells me that shes trying to protect herself and was thinking i was wanting to hook up when we meet....

How would i go about delivering my intent to her? Texting would be a pretty bad idea.

I am not sure if she would come out again with me 1 on 1, base on how she ended up bailing on the day of that we were suppose to meet

I do know where she works... shes like a server in a bar. Visited her once before. I could potentially go there to chat with her.... but a topic like this is quite... deep conversation just going there showing up and talking about it is very off the vibe?

Best shot is maybe go to her work again chat a bit then ask to meet up another day, but if that fails anyone has any ideas?