Shannon's Journal Discussion Volume 3

[MasterEnki]

Shannon, I am contemplating my last relationship where I somewhat got overly attached to the girl, and still in some way am. It's mostly related to a sexual attachment. I haven't experienced this with other girls I have had sex with or being together with, just with her. It's like there is a damn gravitational pull, where I can do anything to get to sleep with her, even loosing myself. I wrote a post about it here if you have time to look it over.

I guess that E2 will take care of it with enough time, but what would really benefit me, would to better understand what causes this kind of attachment in your understanding? Lack of own direction for example? Is it something the girl does that create the situation? An energetic connection? The girl manipulating the male ego? I feel pretty lost on the issue...

A few months ago, I met a woman who I immediately felt was ‘the one’, and she approached me and started talking to me. Nothing has happened romantically or sexually. So I’m confused..

Could be a special connection, or a soulmate, or self-delusion, or psychic seduction, or she is on DMSI, or something else???

The common piece of advice is to ‘let go’ and focus on enjoying life.

I read some underlying sarcasm in your post. Point taken.

Shannon’s answer is pretty awesome!


I really did feel like a woman, who I met recently, was ‘the one’ (or a soulmate of some kind) and still do. The feeling was sudden and instant, and she also approached me which gave some credibly to my feelings that she is ‘the one’. Plus, the following few weeks, I ran into her several times / occasions, when doing my own thing, which also makes it plausible that she is ‘the one’ / a soulmate.

But random articles on Google, and reddit, and quora, and some dating forums, etc. all said ‘let go’ to others who were in a similar situation. They said, ‘let go’ and enjoy life, and if she really is ‘the one’ / soulmate then she will come back into your life (at some point) and you will be together. If she isn’t (self-delusion), then you will meet someone else, ‘plenty of fish in the sea’, etc.

I got the term ‘self-delusion’ from Shannon’s post on types of resistance. In my case, maybe it’s ‘self-delusion’ (and she is nothing special) or maybe she really is ‘the one’ (and / or a soulmate). Who knows?

Your story / situation sounds similar to mine (except yours involves sex / history together). Which reminded me of the woman I met recently.

I do wonder if those influenced by DMSI would feel a special connection, or that the DMSI-user is ‘the one’, etc. Interesting line of though. I doubt that many people in the world, right now, would be using DMSI though.


Edit: By ‘the one’, I mean that I instantly felt an intense, amazing connection (and time seemed to flow extra slowly) and afterwards was walking around for a few hours in a daze, feeling lost and aimless.