Shannon's Journal Discussion Volume 3

[Shannon]

Shannon, I am contemplating my last relationship where I somewhat got overly attached to the girl, and still in some way am. It's mostly related to a sexual attachment. I haven't experienced this with other girls I have had sex with or being together with, just with her. It's like there is a damn gravitational pull, where I can do anything to get to sleep with her, even loosing myself. I wrote a post about it here if you have time to look it over.

I guess that E2 will take care of it with enough time, but what would really benefit me, would to better understand what causes this kind of attachment in your understanding? Lack of own direction for example? Is it something the girl does that create the situation? An energetic connection? The girl manipulating the male ego? I feel pretty lost on the issue...

First, it may or may not just be you. People have different personalities and personal energies, and some of them are incredibly attractive and responsive to one another. What you describe is a type of personality that has an incredibly powerful sexual gravity which is intoxicating and almost impossible to ignore for those susceptible to it.

I'm not going to say this is the case for you, but I have had a girlfriend or two with that and it extended so far as to become a form of mind control for me, I literally had to exit her presence for a couple weeks before I was able to think and see straight again. It took me a solid two years to break up with her, and several more to be entirely done with her. Sometimes this sort of influence is incredibly powerful.

This can also have to do with pre-existing interactions which are beyond the obvious.

What you have is a situation that demands growth from you. Whatever else may be the case, you must outgrow something that holds you in place with regard to this response to her.

Does DMSI cause the user to affect those they are attracted to similar to this?

DMSI creates an intense attraction, but it does not create an attraction that is stronger than the free will of the affected. What I describe above often is stronger than the will of the affected, free or otherwise. I have a pretty damned strong will, but I was 4 years into that relationship before I could even try to break it's effects on me, and it took more than 4 more years to go from "I know I need to break this effect on me" to "I have completely broken it's effect on me".

The goal with DMSI is to persuade, not coerce, for both affected and user.