Shannon's Journal Discussion Volume 3

[Shannon]

Wondering if you can help here Shannon. Last Tuesday night I listened to USLM 3. On Wednesday I got a call about a job i've been trying to apply for. It sounds amazing and is a good opportunity for me. The recruiter said they've already got a team in place (New site opening) but could do with someone of my skills. I sent my CV at 11pm that night. Had a phone call on Thursday morning, arranged an interview for today.

In the meantime, it appears my relationship has gone to absolute shit and is pretty much over, it will take a miracle for me to bring this back. Now she said something interesting, telling me how she felt from Wednesday(the day after I first listened) had changed, it's more or less spiralled the whole week. My 2 days off were Sunday and Monday, I haven't listened again, I don't think I will. Is it possible that this is some kind of resistance effect of the sub? Is there anything I can do to halt/reverse it for now?

Also, I had the interview today. I turned up 30 minutes late, still impressed them enough and was offered the job on the spot.

So you started getting results, and then things lot a little challenging, and you're giving up because of it? I'd say that's all the evidence you need that you NEED that FRM. Keep going.

The first week is the hardest. On the first break, I was fighting with my girlfriend constantly, or trying desperately not to. Then the second week, we are very smooth and things are looking way up.

Keep going. You can't expect to get the results if you run away from the process because it's not always comfortable. Tap out now and all you have to show for it is, "Fear won, and I lost."

Keep going. You may be surprised at how things turn out if you do, I think.

You want to halt it? FINISH WHAT YOU STARTED.

Thanks for the advice, I listened again to USLM3 today. The relationship is now fully over as far as she is concerned. I'm now blocked on everything and am not going to be seeing her around physically at her request.
Does USLM have any potential in reversing this situation? Can I focus attention on it somehow?

There is always the potential, but my question is, why do you want that so much? Think about it. I know that ending a relationship is painful, but what makes you want it back? What is driving that pain? Is it fear? Is it desperation? Is it neediness? Or is it being heartbroken? I can't answer that for you, but if you answer it for yourself - and do so honestly - you will benefit.

You can use USLM3 to help you get back that relationship, if that were your conscious goal, but I don't know how long it would take or how well it would work.

Also consider the reason for this breakup. You said she told you she felt like something had changed and she didn't like it. Is that your subconscious trying to get you to quit by sabotaging this? Is that he sensing you being significantly afraid and being turned off? Maybe she is afraid that if you have no fears you won't want her anymore. There are a million possible reasons, and unless she articulates them to you in your own language (manspeak), it's unlikely you will figure it out. Emotions are irrational and illogical by nature.

I suggest that you accept what is for now, and let FRM work on you for a few weeks while you heal and deal with some of these fears. Then consider what you want to do with regards to her.

Thanks for the advice Shannon, I have continued on with listening to USLM anyway. I still don't know what i'm doing or where I am, I feel lost at the moment as a person, obviously the breakup doesn't help anything but I won't dwell on that too much for the forum's sake, i'm 32 years old I can generally cope with it, i've been through several in my lifetime like many of us.

But something else happened to me today, it may be due to just how i'm feeling, or is down to USLM and the FRM module. I had what I feel was an anxiety attack at 12pm today and i've never suffered from any type of anxiety/panic attacks before. It came over me all of a sudden, I felt dizzy, claustrophobic, suffocated, extremely restless, down and had some dark dark thoughts that I NEVER thought I would have. I got into a bit of a panic because i'd never experienced such a thing and had no idea if it would end. It lasted 60-90 minutes and only calmed down once I got out of the house. I can't say what the underlying thought was that brought it on. Will FRM cause this kind of response to come out in me?

While FRM is working, that can be a possible reaction. If it is the FRM, that would indicate that it's working on something important, something that is probably tied to a number of other things or fears. In other words, if it is FRM, it's working. Keep going. It's only going to get better as the fears are dealt with and removed.

v4 is designed to be a much faster, easier and more efficient approach than 3.2, so I'm trying to get DMSI 3.3 out as quickly as possible, so I can release other programs with it included, and make things easier.