Shannon's Journal Discussion Volume 3

[wolverine_i_am]

Thanks wolverine, i was relaxed since playing pool is something i enjoy doing, while everyone else sits at benches drinking, but i guess that gives her more chances to talk instead of trying to talk to someone at a pool table, but im someone that thinks a lot and cant just let things pop up and mention in conversation normally happens minutes or longer later after a conversation ends is when i think of something to say a bit of a problem need to work on. Im hoping self esteem and other parts of dmsi is going to help with that.

Another thing. When an attractive girl walks by you, do you notice yourself tensing up? Take note of it next time. If you do, then you have things to work on. You're putting up a barrier around yourself. Girls are highly intuitive and can sense if a guy feels he isn't in her league (there's just something off in his energy/vibe, body language, facial expressions), so she prefers to avoid interacting with him.

Also little things like holding up a glass of beer in front of your chest, or playing with your phone, these are things people do to deal with tension in a public environment. Cut these little fidgety behaviours out and be totally relaxed, just sitting or standing there, and doing nothing while observing the environment.