SargeMaximus: Time to Heal (DMSI 3.2A)

[SargeMaximus]

I get why people use tactics. Use whatever you like to succeed I guess. Although this is why I'm throwing tactics and techniques out the window now and doing natural game, cause I know many guys feel that self-worth issue, that it's their game attracting the girls, not their true self. I'm starting to notice now that I connect with girls better when I convey my true self, basically don't even try think of what to do, but just let my subconscious guide me. Conversations flow better and girls are more attracted.

In my experience, being myself has scared plenty of women off / lead to several women blocking me.

It hasn’t helped yet at attracting women.

In all fairness, I probably have never met the right kind of women for me. If I did meet someone that is ‘perfect for me’ then being myself would likely be extremely attractive to her.

But it did flush out the wrong kind of women. I doubt I would have been happy with some of the women that blocked me though.

As a 30 yo, with zero relationship experience and still a virgin (I have reached ‘1st base’ a few times though), being myself is the only viable option.

Being honest about my lack of experience might have scared off quite a few women, but one day a woman will really appreciate being the first of a 30+ yo.

Being a 30 yo virgin, who has never had a relationship, is a fetish to some women (according to some threads on the internet).

Some women say they wish they could meet a 30+ yo virgin and be his first, and that she would feel special being with someone that didn’t just throw away his virginity to some random escort / *****.


This also applies to Catman, and other older virgins also.


For the record, PUA hasn’t worked for me either.

But yeah... being yourself should work in theory, it makes logical sense.

From what I’ve read, there are many different kinds of women, and some would love you (when being yourself), some would hate you (when being yourself) and most would be unimpressed and not even notice that you exist (most women would see you as just another uninteresting / boring guy, just like the millions of others).

Almost every guy is boring to most women, but totally awesome to a rare few (from what I’ve read, and I’ve read thousands of threads about attraction and relationships).


I reckon almost every guy is a sexy fetish to at least one woman in the world.

I’m sure some women out there have a total Sarge fetish... salesman are quite sexy to some women...

I appreciate the sentiment, however if I would have followed that train of thought, I would still be a virgin. Fact is, there are some things you simply must communicate in some form to be attractive to women. It’s worth noting that if that is your current belief and you are still a virgin, there’s a strong possibility it is the culprit.

Only when accepting that I wasn’t getting the results I wanted and taking matters into my own hands did I finally lose my virginity at 28 and have sex with 2 women this year. You say pua hasn’t worked for you, but I’ll say you haven’t found the right technique. Some pua concepts don’t work for me either (like the texting I did with this latest girl. Totally lost her because of it) but you just gotta find what works for you.

I feel like I’m talking to a wall with you virgins but I implore you, for your own sexual happiness, get real with yourself and find out why you’re failing and find a solution.