(10-13-2018, 12:39 PM)SargeMaximus Wrote: I get you. So how do you frame the fallback without making it seem desperate? Like how would you phrase it?
Read the Reciprocity chapter again... 'door-in-the-face' technique...
There is nothing of desperation in it.
You offer something that has been declined... You then propose a smaller request easier to accept and the reciprocity principle will make it even harder to say no to the second request.
That would be a disservice to formulate the exact words how I would say it.
The frame is the one from someone who understand her reality and is sensible to concerns that she might have by meeting a stranger... Your goal is to make her feel safe meeting you...
What I do is that I set my expectations to meet an adventurous women... That is a qualification for me in new women.... but if I feel some resistance to go with the plan, then calibrate accordingly...
