Shannon's Journal Discussion Volume 3

[AriGold]

I disagree since I’ve wanted a lot of sex my whole life but haven’t gotten much. I know you’ll say “ well you obviously don’t want it then” but I do but I also won’t beg so there’s not much I can do except put my desires out there. So far, however, the results are lacking. But it’s not from lack of desire.

Yet if a woman positions herself close to you in public, and doesn't speak, you bug out. Clearly your conscious desire for sex hasn't overcome that particular fear, which would constitute just one of many possible barriers to get to sex.

And don't even say, "Yeah, but, DMSI should get her to talk!" Maybe so, but I'm pointing out the clear existence of fear present in that scenario. Who knows the myriad other ways your subconscious fears are manifesting.

Fair but like you pointed out: she should say something.

@Shannon: I haven’t been offered sex as much as you insist. Approached yes, but I always mess it up. If they would ask: when and where do you want to have sex with me, I’d tell them. But in the example RTBoss cites, it’s more complicated and the more complicated things are, the easier things are to mess up. Compare switching on a light switch to designing a working rocket tgat will land like Elon Musk did. You can’t tell me his desire wasn’t there till when it finally worked, no, the desire was always there but it was complex and that’s why it failed so many times till he finally succeeded.

It seems like you have to learn more about how women communicate. They communicate it more subtle. And it is more like they come close to you and with their body language saying "I am interested in (having sex with) you" with the next sentence in mind "if you don't fuck it up on the way to the bedroom".
As Shannon somewhere earlier (not in this thread) said, you should make her feel safe (and that kind of safe might vary from woman to woman) to open up to you. It also depends on the quality of the woman you are after.