08-07-2018, 02:26 AM
(08-07-2018, 12:59 AM)DarkPlouf Wrote: But, is the issue described by CatMan related to fear? I fail to see how it's directly related.
What CatMan is saying, that I have also said a few times before is that, for some people (the hard cases, so), the goal of DMSI is too much of a leap.
Just to give a good analogy, it's similar to a very poor person praying, using LOA, listening to subs and the heck like that to earn $100k a month.
Do you seriously believe that $100k will fall on his lap given on very poor he is? Just like money doesn't appear out of thin air, so do beautiful women that actually happen to like you. And this is especially true, if, since the beginning, you have the short end of the stick. If you have never been the Derek that makes women go crazy all the time, the goal of DMSI is unrealistic.
That's why there's a reasonable rule when one wants to assert his will over reality. Dream big but aim for a small step at a time. Aim for steps that are not too simple or too far ahead.
A smart strategy for a poor wanting to earn $100k a month isn't to go directly for $100k a month but to set a reasonable roadmap, starting from getting a job or a promotion, then discovering secret sources of money, then investing, and so on, so on.
If we port that analogy to DMSI, maybe a better approach for the "never have been Derek" kind of people, a first step would be to aim for physical changes to increase attractiveness. No matter what people want to believe, you can't do shit with women if you ain't handsome and physically attractive. There are hundreds of men better than an average-looking guy so why would a woman in his sane mind want to settle for you? Especially if we're talking about hooking up. I mean no offense, but I think most of the people struggling with women are not attractive enough.
Then maybe the next step would be some communication skills to do not derp when you want to take a woman home...
All in all the user has to do small steps and get experiences from them. If your last interactions with women were being rejected over and over again there's no way your next one would be ***** them. A reasonable "nex interaction" would be having a nice/flirty chat with them, for example.
I think this is what CatMan was trying to say, but as I said I don't see how is fear involved with that?
I get where you are coming from but it really is fear that stops people. Lack of belief in something stems from somewhere. Whether that's holding onto old beliefs out of safety or not having confidence in one's abilities. Everything you wrote here is just a manifestation of your own fear framed in a "this is how reality really works" mindset.
If you woke up tomorrow and had dmsi executing flawlessly for you, how would that make you feel? To have your entire perceived reality flipped on it's head? Be honest. Would that be a little nerve-wracking for you? Uncomfortable?
INFP
