Shannon's Journal Discussion Volume 3

[Shannon]

I can´t resist anymore...

I have seen quite many times guys mentioning about how tall/short they are in relation to attraction, where they are 5.7 (this number has popped up on few association, if my memory serves me) and say it´s difficult to attract girls being that "short". Just out of curiosity, in which country/continent do you live? I assume US since you use measure in feet. In many, if not most European countries 5.7 (and half) feet is almost exactly the average height of an adult man, same thing world wide. Quick search on US tells that it is pretty darn close to average as well, and in some parts of it 1 inch shorter. In Asia, that´s tall compared to average...in some places really tall.

I know many women like tall(er) guys, at least taller than themselves. If you are 5.7 you are taller than vast majority of women since on average women are shorter than men. I struggle to understand how the height is such an issue for many guys who are actually average height...or maybe it´s just a limiting belief on your own part? I could understand if you are really short it can be a factor...or TOO tall for that matter! Just wondering...

The majority of women prefer a man that is taller then themselves. Especially in the Balkans where it appears to be an accepted norm.

Place 10 tall women in room and ask a shorter guy to chat them all up. Introduce a tall guy into the room who is taller then any of the women. My bets are that the majority of the women would opt for dating the taller guy. There might be a few women who might opt to date the shorter guy. Lets assume that the tall and short guy are of equal looks and charisma.

The solution is to find a girl who is shorter then you too date.

Place 10 tall women in a room with a shorter guy, and they will respond to him according to their conclusions about him.

The first thing they'll conclude is that he is shorter than them, which will trigger certain automatic reactions (unless he's running [and executing] DMSI). But any man can overcome that by also presenting himself in ways that simultaneously tells her, "It doesn't matter how tall I am, I'm what you're looking for."

Height is one thing women consider, but it isn't at all as important as you guys are trying to make it out to be. It's about attitude, self perception, how you carry yourself, what your attitude, actions, choices and body language are saying.

If you communicate "I know I'm not good enough because I'm too short." then she will believe you.

Likewise, if you communicate, "I may be shorter than you, but who fucking cares? I'm what you're looking for anyway." then she will believe you!

It's like I have said before: people look to you to tell them what to think about you. Whatever you tell them, that's what they'll believe.

Ford is quoted as having said something along the lines of , "The man who believes he can, and the man who believes he can't, are both right."

Exactly.

I am 5'7" tall and it never stopped me from dating women taller than myself. What always stopped me was either the fact that she was already involved, or her personality!