07-11-2018, 07:02 PM
(This post was last modified: 07-11-2018, 07:08 PM by SargeMaximus.)
So Mystery talks about the "Ghost" and the "Flame".
Ghost is active disinterest. Where people come to you because your vibe is non-threatening.
I think I have this one down because like I said, for years girls would approach me simply because of my vibe. And I've also noticed when in this state (I can pretty much turn it on at will nowadays) my brother is very talkative, qualifying, and we have so much fun together.
The other part, the "Flame" is you adding value. This one I have not been able to master because whenever I've talked to women who approach me, eventually they lose interest. It's so bad I'm afraid to say anything. Of course, you need to talk to women to get in bed with them so I'm kind of f*cked for the time being.
Looking for how to ignite my Flame without ruining the Ghost. The idea is to have both simultaneously.
EDIT: Although, in the case of my brother, I definitely have the Flame down. It's like I know exactly what he finds funny and can just nail every humorous moment to make him reel with laughter. Not sure how to do that with other people yet tho, and especially not with women. I don't want to make women laugh per-se but I mean, knowing exactly how to turn them onto me.
EDIT 2: Although I had that with my FWB. I lost her because I acted needy, but I know I nailed it with her in more ways than one.
Ghost is active disinterest. Where people come to you because your vibe is non-threatening.
I think I have this one down because like I said, for years girls would approach me simply because of my vibe. And I've also noticed when in this state (I can pretty much turn it on at will nowadays) my brother is very talkative, qualifying, and we have so much fun together.
The other part, the "Flame" is you adding value. This one I have not been able to master because whenever I've talked to women who approach me, eventually they lose interest. It's so bad I'm afraid to say anything. Of course, you need to talk to women to get in bed with them so I'm kind of f*cked for the time being.
Looking for how to ignite my Flame without ruining the Ghost. The idea is to have both simultaneously.
EDIT: Although, in the case of my brother, I definitely have the Flame down. It's like I know exactly what he finds funny and can just nail every humorous moment to make him reel with laughter. Not sure how to do that with other people yet tho, and especially not with women. I don't want to make women laugh per-se but I mean, knowing exactly how to turn them onto me.
EDIT 2: Although I had that with my FWB. I lost her because I acted needy, but I know I nailed it with her in more ways than one.
