I thought about something for a time now, and thought about commenting it in other peoples journals, but it doesnt feel like the right thing to do. So i'll write it here.
I think that a lot of peoples problem is that the focus to much on themselves, in terms of how they want to be seen, what they think about themselves, who they "are", etc. That stuff will only make you more distant from other people and harder to relate to - thus creating problems with insecurities and problem with interaction with other people (and thus also lack of sexual relations). The trick is to not define yourself, but feel yourself. That is you. Not the things you think about yourself, but the things you feel about yourself. Then you also get better to feel how other people are, you get better at communicating with them (or doing the opposite of it if they are assholes). You cannot reason your way to personal development, you have to feel your way there, there is no way but through.
I think that a lot of peoples problem is that the focus to much on themselves, in terms of how they want to be seen, what they think about themselves, who they "are", etc. That stuff will only make you more distant from other people and harder to relate to - thus creating problems with insecurities and problem with interaction with other people (and thus also lack of sexual relations). The trick is to not define yourself, but feel yourself. That is you. Not the things you think about yourself, but the things you feel about yourself. Then you also get better to feel how other people are, you get better at communicating with them (or doing the opposite of it if they are assholes). You cannot reason your way to personal development, you have to feel your way there, there is no way but through.
