SargeMaximus: Time to Heal (DMSI 3.2A)

[Shannon]

Hey Sarge,

With every thing that went down (pun intended) with that girl, what do you think the odds are that she made up the whole herpes thing as an excuse to get you out of the mood and not have sex?

Lol, I've thought the exact same thing. Perhaps I didn't even make her cum.

Why did she go out with me tho? Why did she invite me back to her place? Why did she grind on me? Why did she blow me (before I went looking for a condom)?

Why did she not stop me as I was fingering her?

Just a bunch of why's. Same as with my hairdresser. Wtf is going on with dmsi?

EDIT: also, any forum members who are experienced with women, please offer your thoughts on the matter. Thanks.

What you're encountering isn't necessarily a fault in DMSI. It's a combination of the specific woman you encountered, and your lack of awareness and understanding.

Over and over again, she gave you no go signals you ignored or flat out contradicted. What she did was express interest and give you a shit test, and you failed it by not handling things as a man would who had the sort of experience she was looking for.

That's part of why she let you get that far. Part of it was, it feels good. Part of it may have been that she did not want to anger or upset you. But several things you say she did point to a shit test (a series of them, actually) and you failed them like dominoes.

The more attractive a woman is, the more experience she will tend to have. The more experience she has, the more obvious it will be to her when she is dealing with an inexperienced male. If she perceives you to be high value (aura/celebrity effect) and then you act low value (desperate, one track mind, PUA type thinking) then she will turn the ship around as soon as she detects the discrepancy.

Contrary to popular belief, lot of hot women know what PUA is and they know when it's being done. And those who do know, shut it down hard in almost all cases. PUA techniques can and will get you less sex because of this, depending on your level of skill and understanding, as well as the woman involved.

Your biggest issue is that you did not see the signals she was giving you, or see the shit tests. You made her get pretty blunt, and then ignored and/or contradicted the signals anyway.

That's not DMSI's fault. That's your fault. You need to learn to read female body language better, you need to read the signals a woman is giving you and you need to know what you're doing if you're going to try to use PUA techniques.

And for the record, a woman getting motherly, or condescending (pats you like that), she's likely telling you, "Sorry, Charlie, I see through your bullshit act and the gig is up. You're done."

Motherly and condescending is also a way of trying to manipulate you.

DMSI did what it was supposed to do. The aura does need to be made stronger, but that doesn't excuse you having to know what you're doing to some degree at least.

Next time, remember that the biggest turn off a woman can have is DESPERATION, and she can see it, smell it, sense it, taste it and hear it a mile away.

KILL YOUR DESPERATION.

EDIT: Oh, and for the record, the anti-sniper fires according to how much you don't want whatever it is firing in response to. So if you don't care if she has sexually transmitted herpes (which is different than common oral herpes, by the way), the anti-sniper won't fire. If you do, it will fire according to how much that bothers you. Thus, like the rest, it is self optimizing and self adjusting, making your argument against it ridiculous.