Shannon's Journal Discussion Volume 3

[lano1106]

In that sense is actually opening an interaction with a random girl against the goals of the program?

Why would it be 'against' the goals of the program? Yeah when you're fully executing, a girl can approach you (perhaps many girls on a frequent basis). But you can also decide to approach other girls when you want to. I don't see how it would conflict?

Against is a big word. I would rather say that it is not the best setup. The person who approach the other sets a frame.

The frame is more favorable to the approached person than for the approaching one.

Also, I suspect that if you approach too often it sends the message to your unconscious mind that you are selling something and chasing rather than being in demand...

Something really useful to change my behavior that I got from psychocybernetics book is to imagine someone that has the behavior that I want to have and ask what that person would do and think in that situation.

Think of any very successful man with women and I guarantee you that he does not approach more. If you want to become like that person, you need to start doing and thinking like that person. Sometimes, the reasons why you need to act that way won't be totally clear to you until you become that new person...

This is probably why DMSI prefer you to let targets initiate...

I do open a lot of persons but with the following precautions

1. I open (not approaching) everyone. not just attractive women
2. I don't want anything from them. I just give them the opportunity to initiate. iow, change the frame rapidly if they are interested