The 'previously having success with women' makes sense and can help, but doesn't necessarily stand.
I've been with alot of women. But I didn't have a huge amount of success on it, and strangely somehow the healing I did, doing the work to meet my mum and such not only didn't solve my issues but now I seem in a worse place with women.
I guess if you looked objectively at me during DMSI it's more than most. One girl I was already sleeping with, starting during E2 so I won't count that.
One girl I made out with at a pub who was messaging me after saying she had to wait for her auntie to goto bed. I got sick of waiting and it was late so went to bed and woke up with several messages wanting to meet up and go for a drive. Replied in the morning but didn't hear from her again.
1 girl I dated for around 3 months during DMSI who is the most attractive in a while, and I can count 2 that I slept with in the 'bloom' maybe 2 or 3 weeks after stopping DMSI I slept with 2 in a few days. One I started talking to in a store, the other on tinder. Unfortunately after that I got the old 'this is too good' fear response and it disappeared. One I seen again but she was too fat and though it was fun and pleasurable the fallout from it psychologically made me feel like shit and brought my deservingness down so I didn't contact her again, the other I wanted to see again but after that just fucked me around and wasted my time with bullshit games.
1 since then, but I attribute that to some tapping I did for a few days when I got frustrated. I'd still be seeing her but she ended up being a fucking nutter.
That brings me to a point with the autopilot. The one from the store, I seen her and I just had this feeling from her like she was horny and at the time it turned me on and I just started talking to her, and it all just flowed. But after it I regretted it because of how fat she was, the same the second time.. feeling depressed, deservingness went down and regretting it. So that shows a downfall of the current autopilot, in the moment I just went for it and it was fun and pleasurable but I regretted it after like it just made me go for it without having standards.
The argument to that might be "But DMSI is about getting laid and that happened". But i'd argue, that to me atleast it's not getting laid at any cost, it's having sex with attractive women that I want to be with.
And the people that will likely disagree with that and say "But I want to get laid at any cost, I don't care, I just want sex" will be the inexperienced men. Occasionally I get to a level of frustration when it's been a while and my standards are lowered and I fuck someone just to have sex, and regret it and feel like shit every time if it's not someone I really want to be with usually or if I had choice i'd avoid them.
I've been with alot of women. But I didn't have a huge amount of success on it, and strangely somehow the healing I did, doing the work to meet my mum and such not only didn't solve my issues but now I seem in a worse place with women.
I guess if you looked objectively at me during DMSI it's more than most. One girl I was already sleeping with, starting during E2 so I won't count that.
One girl I made out with at a pub who was messaging me after saying she had to wait for her auntie to goto bed. I got sick of waiting and it was late so went to bed and woke up with several messages wanting to meet up and go for a drive. Replied in the morning but didn't hear from her again.
1 girl I dated for around 3 months during DMSI who is the most attractive in a while, and I can count 2 that I slept with in the 'bloom' maybe 2 or 3 weeks after stopping DMSI I slept with 2 in a few days. One I started talking to in a store, the other on tinder. Unfortunately after that I got the old 'this is too good' fear response and it disappeared. One I seen again but she was too fat and though it was fun and pleasurable the fallout from it psychologically made me feel like shit and brought my deservingness down so I didn't contact her again, the other I wanted to see again but after that just fucked me around and wasted my time with bullshit games.
1 since then, but I attribute that to some tapping I did for a few days when I got frustrated. I'd still be seeing her but she ended up being a fucking nutter.
That brings me to a point with the autopilot. The one from the store, I seen her and I just had this feeling from her like she was horny and at the time it turned me on and I just started talking to her, and it all just flowed. But after it I regretted it because of how fat she was, the same the second time.. feeling depressed, deservingness went down and regretting it. So that shows a downfall of the current autopilot, in the moment I just went for it and it was fun and pleasurable but I regretted it after like it just made me go for it without having standards.
The argument to that might be "But DMSI is about getting laid and that happened". But i'd argue, that to me atleast it's not getting laid at any cost, it's having sex with attractive women that I want to be with.
And the people that will likely disagree with that and say "But I want to get laid at any cost, I don't care, I just want sex" will be the inexperienced men. Occasionally I get to a level of frustration when it's been a while and my standards are lowered and I fuck someone just to have sex, and regret it and feel like shit every time if it's not someone I really want to be with usually or if I had choice i'd avoid them.
