I took my son to a local pumpkin patch, that's grown to near-amusment-park-size over the years, after picking him up from pre-school. I bought a season pass, so we can go multiple times.
After I picked him up, he motor-mouthed about all kinds of things. His mind works like a clock. Since starting MLS, he's become much more articulate, and he explains everything he thinks about to me. Listing the examples would take forever.
I wonder if MLS is affecting me through my son, as I was taking him through a course he was riding a tricycle on at the patch. At first, I was stern and harsh in my instruction. I wasn't being tolerant of mistakes "Turn! Don't hit the rail! Watch out!" - and then it hit me. I was being the perfectionist, just like my dad, and his dad before him. Perfectionism is a fear of making mistakes and failure, and I wasn't letting it be "okay" to make mistakes. So I told him, "It's okay if you can't pedal right away, you'll get it eventually. Keep trying!" "You hit the rail, oh well! Straighten out your handlebars, you'll figure it out, no big deal!"
I want my son to know it's okay to make mistakes along the way, and learn from them. We're all going to make them, no sense in feeling so bad that you try to never make mistakes ever and end up beating yourself up over it - or worse.
Cool stuff.
After I picked him up, he motor-mouthed about all kinds of things. His mind works like a clock. Since starting MLS, he's become much more articulate, and he explains everything he thinks about to me. Listing the examples would take forever.
I wonder if MLS is affecting me through my son, as I was taking him through a course he was riding a tricycle on at the patch. At first, I was stern and harsh in my instruction. I wasn't being tolerant of mistakes "Turn! Don't hit the rail! Watch out!" - and then it hit me. I was being the perfectionist, just like my dad, and his dad before him. Perfectionism is a fear of making mistakes and failure, and I wasn't letting it be "okay" to make mistakes. So I told him, "It's okay if you can't pedal right away, you'll get it eventually. Keep trying!" "You hit the rail, oh well! Straighten out your handlebars, you'll figure it out, no big deal!"
I want my son to know it's okay to make mistakes along the way, and learn from them. We're all going to make them, no sense in feeling so bad that you try to never make mistakes ever and end up beating yourself up over it - or worse.
Cool stuff.
