I attempted a dialogue with the 'part' of myself resisting. Shannon wrote about communicating with that part and reassuring it. Last time I did that it 'seemed' to make things worse and derail things but then it got better after a bit.
This isn't to tell you guys "You should do this" because it could still be seen as using other methods. But I took this idea...
And I combined it with an exercise from an Inner Bonding book where they get you to have a dialogue with your inner child by asking questions, and going back and forth in writing between the parts of yourself. Listening to it, then reassuring it. When you're doing it you're basically feeling into that part then going back to the part of you the 'adult' part that can reassure it while also showing understanding, genuine understanding because I can see how that part of me feels like that with some of the things i've had happen.
I tried that with the 'resisting part/insecure part' and then wrote back as if I was talking to that part of me and giving understanding with how it feels and reassuring it.
I did that for a bit, and I felt something physically relax just subtly in my body. And in the end that part that was resisting was like "Ok, i'm a little scared but i'm prepared to open up a little with this.."
I'm not sure what the results will be, but this idea come to me when I woke up in the middle of the night last night like "try this idea from Inner Bonding."
One thing that I don't like about the Inner Bonding stuff is how alot of it seems very on the feminine side of gentleness, love, 'connecting with your feminine side' and such as it was created by a woman and not wanting to do it in their way and become weak. So i'm attempting to take the idea and apply it in another way.
With things like that I never see them talking about connecting with your more masculine side.. it's always shit like "Oh men connect with your feminine side."
This isn't to tell you guys "You should do this" because it could still be seen as using other methods. But I took this idea...
Quote:Shannon - Sometimes, the person is not trying to resit consciously. Sometimes, they are. In either case, they are resisting and that means some part of them needs to take personal responsibility for that resistance. Resistance is a choice, conscious or not, and if you have no accountability for your choices, there is no incentive to change what you don't want.
In cases where you are resisting subconsciously, you will need to comunicate with your subconscious and find out why it is trying to resist. Then communicate back to your subconscious that this is what you want to do, experience, achieve, and that it is safe to do so.
Me - Hmm seems i've done half of this with my writing "What am I resisting/what am I fearing?" and such.. and it's lead me to some conclusions and sometimes after it my mind has 'quietened' a bit.
But i'm not quite sure how I should do the second part after that.
Shannon - I find that I am communicating with a much younger version of myself most of the time when I am doing this. I try to imagine myself talking to that version of me as if we are sitting down together or standing together. When he expresses a fear, I feel it, and I reassure him that I have experience in how to handle it and I've got this, he is safe and I'll take care of everything.
But this is why I am going to automate the process in DMSI 3.2.
And I combined it with an exercise from an Inner Bonding book where they get you to have a dialogue with your inner child by asking questions, and going back and forth in writing between the parts of yourself. Listening to it, then reassuring it. When you're doing it you're basically feeling into that part then going back to the part of you the 'adult' part that can reassure it while also showing understanding, genuine understanding because I can see how that part of me feels like that with some of the things i've had happen.
I tried that with the 'resisting part/insecure part' and then wrote back as if I was talking to that part of me and giving understanding with how it feels and reassuring it.
I did that for a bit, and I felt something physically relax just subtly in my body. And in the end that part that was resisting was like "Ok, i'm a little scared but i'm prepared to open up a little with this.."
I'm not sure what the results will be, but this idea come to me when I woke up in the middle of the night last night like "try this idea from Inner Bonding."
One thing that I don't like about the Inner Bonding stuff is how alot of it seems very on the feminine side of gentleness, love, 'connecting with your feminine side' and such as it was created by a woman and not wanting to do it in their way and become weak. So i'm attempting to take the idea and apply it in another way.
With things like that I never see them talking about connecting with your more masculine side.. it's always shit like "Oh men connect with your feminine side."
