(05-27-2017, 05:34 AM)RTBoss Wrote: Wanted to mention:
B/c of the dude - my "former friend," - throwing me shade at the gym, I noticed I've moved my workout times to avoid the possibility of seeing him. I'm avoiding him b/c the gym is one of the few places I get to enjoy myself without the kids or my wife. It's time that's "mine," and I'll be damned if I'm going to have him around ruining it.
I don't want to patch things up. I don't care what his problem is. He did this last year - just went "dark" out of the blue (which was before he belonged to my gym). I spent a lot of time wondering what I "did wrong." I even had dreams about it, where he and his wife would tell me that it was all my fault (meaning, I thought it was my fault). Now I know better. There's a reason this dude doesn't have any old/good friends. He can't keep them. He either pushes them away once they're too close, or something else. He's "Flavor of the Day," - once someone else comes along that peaks his interest, you're old hat, and he repeats the cycle with them. I should have realized this when I noticed he's got a new car every 8 months, even though he can't afford it. Or why he's actively trying to cheat on his wife, in blatant boneheaded ways. Once "new" has lost its shine, it's "on to the next!"
Whatever. Not my problem. This time, I don't care. This time, I'm done. Loyalty in friendship is one of my top qualities I give, and I value the same in return. Flakes like this go into my mental and emotional trash bin.
But...not the point. Why now? I wonder if my subconscious is using him and his Flake Trait to get me to workout at different times to run into different women. Certainly possible.
It may not just be your subconscious clearing out ways for you to meet more women, but also, just clearing it out for you to be in your prime at all times.
Since I've gotten off of DMSI and I'm starting to process all of the information, I'm realizing several things that I hadn't realized before.
One is Prime State. To be effective at anything, whether it's picking up women, working out at the gym, or hammering through a work matter, the more in emotional control you're in, the better the output will be and the more effective it will be also.
You go into the gym angry, your workout might be intense, but you also are more likely to screw your form up and inadvertently hurt your muscles. Same with women, you approach them with negative energy, it will bite you in the ass. This happened to me on Thursday night with Y, which led to us having a major blowout. I was fine the next day and I am still processing things.
That being said, it is good to let the rage out until it exhausts you. Then you can assess the issue and start from ground zero. All of this will eventually get you to the mental state you want to be in. This might sound like Zen talk, but that's not what it is. It's just being clear, not conflicted, and aware.
The easiest point from A to B is a straight line. The more distractions you have running the course in your life, the more wiggled the line gets and it takes you through the entire alphabet before you get to B, at which point you'll be exhausted and not in prime form to tackle the challenge facing you.
This guy is one of those distractions RT. As are your in-laws, and anyone else who doesn't jive with your current mental state. Work through the anger until it exhausts you, then see it for what it is, and reset.
Everything else will fall into place after that Brother.
